Would this put you off?

[oneandonly]

You are a reasonably confident guy. And a girl tells you that she thought you were out of her league. Would it put you off?

I met this guy who chased me to my flattery. I ended up saying this on our 2nd date. I am wondering how he may have interpreted this.

He thought I didn't like him cos I delayed meeting him when he first asked me out.

[Yet another guy]

I don't know if my lack of confidence affects it but I would be flattered.

[girl68]

If he's cocky his head will explode with arrogance. If he's not then he'll simply be flattered. If you keep saying stuff along those lines he may be put off as it can be taken as a lack of confidence.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

If you keep saying stuff along those lines he may be put off as it can be taken as a lack of confidence.

This is true. It could also make him believe it, and make him treat you differently.

[Bonfire]

No it wouldn't. That's probably the best compliment a guy can ever receive besides "Wow you have a big cock".

[Yet another guy]

It could also make him believe it, and make him treat you differently.

That's a good point. I've heard that girls like confident guys with a good self esteem.

[Jolicoeur]

I would feel more secure in a relationship after a comment like that. I'd be reassured.

[Sixpacj]

No it wouldn't. That's probably the best compliment a guy can ever receive besides "Wow you have a big cock".

hahaha... I would tend to disagree here, if you don't mind ;-)

Not that I am any super special, but I tend to be confident bordering on cocky, and I have heard it a number of times, sometimes phrased differently, "you are too much for me", "I couldn't compete with you" or something... It usually meant the "relationship"/"hook-up" was not going to happen.

You can only get with people of more or less the same status/value, whether real or perceived. If one person deems themselves much lower on the status scale, it's not gonna work.

And the cooler/more confident the guys is, the more difficult it gets, in a way, I'd say. After all, a lot of (all?) women have terribly low self-esteem..

I am sure there are ways to work around this, but I haven't found mine yet, hahahahaha :-)

[Sixpacj]

I would feel more secure in a relationship after a comment like that. I'd be reassured.

Yes, but the problem is the OP (female) does not feel reassured, which spells problems in the future. If left unaddressed, this underlying notion of not being good enough with linger on and manifest itself in a number of ugly ways, and ultimately ruin the "relationship". Assumign one starts in the first place.

[Sixpacj]

If he's cocky his head will explode with arrogance. If he's not then he'll simply be flattered. If you keep saying stuff along those lines he may be put off as it can be taken as a lack of confidence.

If he is cocky he will leave puzzled as to why anyone would not want to partake of this shiny nimbus of awesome glory that he clearly is.

If he is not, he will likley be puzzled as to why an apparently cool girl would have such low self-esteem.

[Sixpacj]

Based on my experience, it would flatter me for a milisecond and then make me wonder what the problem is. I would still give you another chance, and if you do not raise the issue again and act more or less confident, there should not be a problem.

But if this repeats, there is an underlying problem with your self-esteem and you will need to address it.

Also, it is sometimes a technique females use to bait men into feeling confident and letting their guard down, which is another reason why I'd be cautious around you.

[surfer808]

I think it would be better to pick something you like and compliment it. Your skin is smooth, nice hands, cute butt whatever. The your out of my league deal sounds odd and insecure to me. Plus it gives him a chance to retort about something he likes. Its all positive.

[IndigoGal]

Ok, I'm not a guy, so I can't speak to what they would think (and probably shouldn't answer in the "ask a male" forum) but I recently had a guy say this to me, and it made me worry that either he was getting too involved too fast or just had really low self esteem. Of course, it could be totally different going the other way. It was flattering but my concerns outweighed that.

[Nicholas_V]

It would make me think you are an insecure person with no experience in relationships (that of course subject to age - but if you are 25+ and you were saying this, it would raise red flags). Besides, why do you want to put yourself in such disadvantageous position? Would you say to your boss that you think s/he pays you too much?

[warriormaiden]

And the cooler/more confident the guys is, the more difficult it gets, in a way, I'd say. After all, a lot of (all?) women have terribly low self-esteem.

Are you suggesting that we all have self esteem issues?
Doesn't everyone? Regardless if you have a penis or not?