Wha should I do if two guys like me?

[iamminzy]

I dated this guy online since January and we chatted in December. At that time I was chatting with him I was still with my ex and told him I wanted to break up with him. He thought that was a turn off and that I should have waited after the break up to chat with other guys online. But anyways we dated each other for about 5 months now. He is currently on vacation with his parents and he said that we will be a couple after he comes back.

During our second date in January, he kissed me and wanted to make out with me but I hesitated a bit and we just kissed in the front seat. On our third date he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said I needed more time. He asked me again last February and me couple more times and I told him I am ready, but somehow I think he's not fully ready to be in a relationship because he broke up with his girlfriend over a year ago. They were together for 4 years. He broke up with her and he didn't seem all that interested in her anymore especially because she didn't want to have children and they never had sex either from what he told me. His ex was afraid of penetration if you know what I mean and she was afraid of Pap Smear.

We usually chat on AIM and sometimes on the phone and there were times when he ignored me on AIM. I imed him and he didn't imed me back; this happened like once or twice. Then there was this one time when he completely ignored me for two days and I thought he got pissed at me cuz I said w/e to him and hung up. We live 40 mins away from each and he said he was coming back on friday to see me, but in the morning he said he wasn't coming back and then in the late afternoon, he told me he was coming back, and then he called me later to tell me he wasn't. So I got pissed and said w/e and hung up. I felt doubled played all in one day. I spoke with me friend and said I shouldn't have done that, but to talk with him about it instead; I couldn't help it. He ignored my calls when I tried to call him and I tried to call again, but he didn't respond. So I ranted on my Facebook and sent him a message since he didn't pick up my phones.

Then I said forget this. I'm going out with another guy that I don't know too well either. he just gave me some helpful tips and said screw him! he;s a jerk. Some of my guy friends said that as well. But anyways, I went out with him. I met him last year at the club because my friend invited him clubbing and it was my b-day and all, so that's how I met him. I don't know these guys too well either because I my friend was hitting on me at the clubs and I happened to add his other friend on Facebook and that's how this circle of unknown friends came to be.

Anyways I went out with him just to stop thinking about the guy I dated online. I kind of regretted because I'm not very social with new people, but it was pretty ok. He paid for dinner, dessert, and my candies from Walgreens. He held onto my waist to get closer to the umbrella because it was pouring which was sweat of him. he always asked if I was cold and offer me his jacket like my ex did, but the guy from online never did and he always asked if I was ok and stuff.
(Then as me and that guy was at starbucks, he aimed me on my itouch and said what I was doing and stuff) I was like really you're talking to me now? And after when I got back from starbucks, he called me and explained to me the situation. He said that he ignore me because he needed sometime to think about our relationship and he didn't know if I was willing to move to his place since he lives 40 minutes away and he doesn't know if I want children or not. he didn't want to get into a serious relationship with me and end up hurting me in the end like his ex.


We would occasionally chat on Facebook and sometimes on the phone. I went out with him twice wearing the same clothes from last, sweats and sweatshirt cuz I camped out at this arena for a free clinic thing couple weeks ago. He held onto my hand in the car and while walking/hold my waist. When we went to borders, he wrapped his arm around me real close while I was sitting on the ground looking at a book and he hugged me from behind even when I was walking and trying to wiggle him off me. The third time I went out with him, we went on top of a cliff near the beach and he hugged me and protected me from the cold, he made me sit on him and continued to hug me and it looked like he was trying to kiss me, cuz he pecked on my forehead and kept asking me to look at him, but I didn't want to; I'm shy.

But anyways I have doubts about both guys.

The guy I'm dating online (guy A), isn't as sensitive and gentle like other guy (Guy B). Guy A has a nice car, house, and a stable job while Guy B doesn't have a stable job, nice car, and I think he still live with his parents (he trying to be a fireman). Guy A has good lucks and looks very decent while Guy B looks stoned, not that good looking, and kinda tough-mean looking.

What I like about Guy A is that he seem decent and he makes me feel comfortable around him. He;s the first guy I dated online and the last one because I'm so hesitant to date online guys. Even when we chatted on aim and on the phone, he made me comfortable and it was very easy talking to him. We always have something interesting to say and would laugh about things, show youtube clips and make jokes.We love going to restaurants, movies, and shopping. Man does this guy love to shop because most guys hate shopping; I know my ex hated it. Even though we went shopping alot, it was never boring with him. He always gives me these funny weird looks when we're with his friends because we don't want to be like kissing right in front of them, but we did sorta kiss in back of the car while his friend was driving haha.

What I don't like about him is that he changes his mind when he says he coming back but doesn't keep his words. I have to constantly worry about my looks, how I act or say stuff in front of him, and how to behave myself. I don't usually call him because I called him before, but he sometimes he doesn't call me back, but I try to call him back when I miss his call. Sometimes I have missed his call when I am away from my phone and he is not online and sometimes I don't want to call him because I think he's asleep since he has to work or when I do call him back, there's no callback.

What I like about Guy B is that he is very sensitive and attentive. he always listened to me and remember everything I said that I can't even remember what I even said. I like how he gives me the devoted attention and calls me a princess, cutie, and dork. I only went out with him a few times and I haven't gotten to know him very well.

He said he likes me and he always calls me cute, but i sometimes I don't like it when he calls me cute. he always uses indirect comments about sex like what's starts with an F but ends with a uck? and I was like no comment I ain't answering that. and I call him a perv. He say's Firetruck. And he said I know you are perverted and I know you think dirty blah blah blah. He sometimes ask me what I am wearing right now on the phone and yesterday he asked if I groom? And I say yes I groom my hair? And he said not the hair on your head, but he meant on the private area when I was just joking about shaving my head. I knew what he was talking about. he always asked me why are you so innocent and cute blah blah blah. Do you think he's only into sex? I told other guy about it because I like him more, but I still have my doubts about him and I wish I can mash both qualities of both guys into one guy, but can't.

Besides my soon-to-be-boyfriend (guy A) told me he still misses his ex and right after he said that I didn't respond. he told me that before because when he is lonely at his house, he will think about her, but when he is with me, he won't think about her. That's my other doubt about him is whether he just wants to find a random girl online just so he can forget about his ex, but can change his mind anytime when he's through with you. And he went on vacation with his parents and still hasn't called like he said he will when he called me when he was at the airport. he has time to poke me and respond to his facebook picture but not even time to leave a quick message..... is what I don't like. It kind of makes me feel invisible or disrespected.

That's where i;m struggling because I don't want to tell Guy B that I;m dating another guy otherwise he probably would leave me alone and ignore me. Sorry if this is long... but that's my story

[Yet another guy]

Pick one and stick with it. If you can't choose, pick neither. If you had to, I'd recommend B since A isn't over his ex. You don't have to lock in on B since you don't know him that well yet but you do need to dump A soon if you are going to. You can't string him along forever.