How do I make it up to her..?

[Cowpip]

So basically, my girlfriend and I have been as happy as can be for about a month now (after a really rough 2-3 months of continuous fighting). Things have been great, I'm feeling wonderfully appreciated, she's feeling less smothered, it's all perfect. However, about a week ago, she brought up an issue saying that quite a few times I'll talk about sex so much, or ask for it so often, that she thinks it is taking over the relationship. Her fear is that our relationship is becoming based ONLY on sex. Well, after she told me this I DID back off, and I let her know that I love her for her, not for her body. It just.. a plus.

Anyways, enough with the back story - Last night was Prom. It went great, we danced (not that stupid grinding dancing, slow dancing), and eventually left back to my house. She spent the night, and as we were undressing for bed, I asked her, "Kayti,there is something I'd kind of like to do before bed.. if you catch my drift." Well, she said she was exhausted and that she couldn't, and I pushed and nearly begged, and just didn't take no for an answer. Now, I didn't force myself upon her, but I also didn't give her the respect she deserves.

We eventually fell asleep, me a bit disappointed, and felt bad as well because she really DID want to have sex, but she was just too exhausted. In the morning, she texted her mom almost right from waking saying that she was ready to get picked up. We had planned on spending the day together, but she was homesick and tired, and wanted to leave. (It's important to note that she says that the night before had NOTHING to do with her wanting to go).

Now, this is where I ****ed up. Big time. I asked if, before she left, we could finally have sex again. She hopped back in the bed, hid under the covers, and wouldn't talk to me. She'd avoid eye contact, ignore me, give me 1 words answers, etc. I pretty much BEGGED her to talk to me so we could make it right, and told her that I was beyond sorry. I told her in all truth that sometimes my urge to make love is far greater than my morals. She pretty much had none of it, accepted that I was sorry, and that she needs time to be angry. She is practically on borderline contempt for me. I just want things right.

So, I'm going to give her all the time she needs - a day, two days, a week, whatever - but I want to be ARMED with something to give her when she gets back. Something very heartfelt, including the SINCEREST of apologies. What could that be?

I can honestly say for a fact that that is not the case. We got back at 1, and were dancing all night. And she sleeps a LOT. =S

Regardless, WHAT can I do to make it up to her?

-Note- I posted this in the Love Advice section, and I very well may post it in the Intimacy forum too, but I'd also like a female P.O.V. on this.

So basically, my girlfriend and I have been as happy as can be for about a month now (after a really rough 2-3 months of continuous fighting). Things have been great, I'm feeling wonderfully appreciated, she's feeling less smothered, it's all perfect. However, about a week ago, she brought up an issue saying that quite a few times I'll talk about sex so much, or ask for it so often, that she thinks it is taking over the relationship. Her fear is that our relationship is becoming based ONLY on sex. Well, after she told me this I DID back off, and I let her know that I love her for her, not for her body. It just.. a plus.

Anyways, enough with the back story - Last night was Prom. It went great, we danced (not that stupid grinding dancing, slow dancing), and eventually left back to my house. She spent the night, and as we were undressing for bed, I asked her, "Kayti,there is something I'd kind of like to do before bed.. if you catch my drift." Well, she said she was exhausted and that she couldn't, and I pushed and nearly begged, and just didn't take no for an answer. Now, I didn't force myself upon her, but I also didn't give her the respect she deserves.

We eventually fell asleep, me a bit disappointed, and felt bad as well because she really DID want to have sex, but she was just too exhausted. In the morning, she texted her mom almost right from waking saying that she was ready to get picked up. We had planned on spending the day together, but she was homesick and tired, and wanted to leave. (It's important to note that she says that the night before had NOTHING to do with her wanting to go).

Now, this is where I ****ed up. Big time. I asked if, before she left,I ask if we could finally have sex again. She hopped back in the bed, hid under the covers, and wouldn't talk to me. She'd avoid eye contact, ignore me, give me 1 words answers, etc. I pretty much BEGGED her to talk to me so we could make it right, and told her that I was beyond sorry. I told her in all truth that sometimes my urge to make love is far greater than my morals. She pretty much had none of it, accepted that I was sorry, and that she needs time to be angry. She is practically on borderline contempt for me. I just want things right.

So, I'm going to give her all the time she needs - a day, two days, a week, whatever - but I want to be ARMED with something to give her when she gets back. Something very heartfelt, including the SINCEREST of apologies. What could that be?

So basically, my girlfriend and I have been as happy as can be for about a month now (after a really rough 2-3 months of continuous fighting). Things have been great, I'm feeling wonderfully appreciated, she's feeling less smothered, it's all perfect. However, about a week ago, she brought up an issue saying that quite a few times I'll talk about sex so much, or ask for it so often, that she thinks it is taking over the relationship. Her fear is that our relationship is becoming based ONLY on sex. Well, after she told me this I DID back off, and I let her know that I love her for her, not for her body. It just.. a plus.

Anyways, enough with the back story - Last night was Prom. It went great, we danced (not that stupid grinding dancing, slow dancing), and eventually left back to my house. She spent the night, and as we were undressing for bed, I asked her, "Kayti,there is something I'd kind of like to do before bed.. if you catch my drift." Well, she said she was exhausted and that she couldn't, and I pushed and nearly begged, and just didn't take no for an answer. Now, I didn't force myself upon her, but I also didn't give her the respect she deserves.

We eventually fell asleep, me a bit disappointed, and felt bad as well because she really DID want to have sex, but she was just too exhausted. In the morning, she texted her mom almost right from waking saying that she was ready to get picked up. We had planned on spending the day together, but she was homesick and tired, and wanted to leave. (It's important to note that she says that the night before had NOTHING to do with her wanting to go).

Now, this is where I ****ed up. Big time. I asked if before she left, we could finally have sex again. She hopped back in the bed, hid under the covers, and wouldn't talk to me. She'd avoid eye contact, ignore me, give me 1 words answers, etc. I pretty much BEGGED her to talk to me so we could make it right, and told her that I was beyond sorry. I told her in all truth that sometimes my urge to make love is far greater than my morals. She pretty much had none of it, accepted that I was sorry, and that she needs time to be angry. She is practically on borderline contempt for me. I just want things right.

So, I'm going to give her all the time she needs - a day, two days, a week, whatever - but I want to be ARMED with something to give her when she gets back. Something very heartfelt, including the SINCEREST of apologies. What could that be?

[Boisdevie]

So she's young but was too exhausted to make love. And the next morning she texted her mum straight away to ask to be picked up? She is no longer into you.