Long story short: I like a guy who I know a bunch of other girls have fallen for. Works for a production company (I've done projects there). He's older, mid-40's. Has no problem with girls in their early 20's. Sexy older guy, it's not the money.
I was 20, we slept together a bunch of times for a few months, texted each other frequently, I had never been happier. This started two years ago. The joy ride lasted for about a year. And while I KNOW that guys will tell you "whatever you want to hear" just to have sex and then dump you off, I know this was different. The conversations, certain things he would tell me...that's not what one-night stands are like. But no, we were never considered to be BF/GF. I know I was the only one for awhile, but not for an entire year.
It all started dwindling when his ex that he clearly loved dearly supposedly started missing him again. I'm guessing he would jump at the chance to see her any time she would let him, because he was suddenly always "too busy" to get back to my messages for days or weeks (and I'm not one of those psycho-chicks who texts every two minutes, trust me) and for the first time since it started, it went from sleeping together at least once a week to gaps of several months occurring. Then the worst part of all happened--I almost walked in (they didn't notice me) on them kissing at the office on the day I had planned to talk to him. Obviously, I left right away before they saw me and never got to talk. The visual really stung me. We had also kissed in the same place a few times in the past.
So anyway, gentlemen, if there's a chance he's still into me despite the ex taking up more of his thinking-space, what can I do to stand out in a classy way? We still talk here and there--he still initiates it sometimes. Would you prefer that the girl (me) has a long talk about it and where we stand, or should I just appear as busy as possible and that I'm doing well in life, and if he comes back, he comes back? I'm confused if sharing my feelings of how hurt I've become through this would just make him less attracted. (And if I should mention what I almost barged in on over there.)
Thanks so much for your time!