Hi all, I'm new here, my name is James, i'm 26 (probably older than most of you) and I just need someone to read my problem and give me their opinion as to what I should do as i'm a little confused about my current relationship situation.
I am originally from the UK, i went traveling 2.5 years ago to Aussie, did that for a year, met so many awesome people, then went to NZ. I met a girl in NZ that i'm now currently with and have been with for 1.5 years. We live together, very in depth relationship, i work from home so i'm always at home, she works in town - we are both rather detached from friends as we moved in to this town from another where all her friends were, my friends are all at home in the UK and Australia and the place we live is very hard to make new friends, especially when you work from home.
Lately i've not been feeling that great about the whole relationship, I miss home, I miss my family and my friends, I miss working hard on my company, by myself.. and I miss generally.. being alone (i'm an only child). The girl i'm with at the moment, when i first met her I thought she was everything, she is gorgeous, pretty, a girl that you could take home to mum type... very loving, always there and would do anything for you - most of all she is trustworthy and caring. the perfect girl I would say!
The thing is, it seems like the spark has gone, i don't ever want to have sex with her and when we do, i don't really want it. I don't really find her sexy although I love her very much. It would break her heart if she knew i was writing this and it makes me feel terrible to even think of doing such a thing. She is very fragile, and i dread to think what would happen if I said I want to break up..
I love her, as you can tell I think she's great and we're due to move to Australia together in a month. We're currently selling all of our possessions so i think now, of any, would be the time for me to really make or break this relationship.
Perhaps its because I work from home day in day out, constantly at the computer, maybe thats the reason why the spark has gone from our sex life? I live here, work here, eat here, relax here.. I don't have any good friends to go out with, she's not interested in making any friends whatsoever.. and if i were to go out, she'd be constantly on my back wondering when i'm coming home...
I don't know what to do, maybe I should work at it a bit more, maybe working from home is the problem and the high pressured job to make money thats killing me.. we used to be great, together we seem great, but i just get this niggling inside that makes me wonder.. is this going to be forever?
Would appreciate some honest adult advice for whomever is reading this..
thank you so much.
J