From my experience, i would say i have definitely been like this with someone before.
Has she by any chance got out of another relaionship in the past year or so?
I split with my daughters father in 2009. I thought i was pretty much over him a few months later and got fixed up with an awesome guy. He was perfect in every way. Knew exactly how to treat a woman and for the most part i was happy. The more serious we got, the more i started to think about my ex and the more i started to pull away.
Yet, it was only sometimes i felt the need to run away from him. One night we could be having an awesome time together, then the next morning i felt scared and not ready to be with him. It was awkward, id call him to talk about things, id say i wasnt ready to be with him as much. Id say i was busy, tired wanted to hang out with friends etc.. But then a week later i would miss him and realise how great he was and try regain my feelings with him. I would, then a few days later i would want to run away again.
Im not saying this is whats going on, but it is a possibilty as what you have said reminds me exactly how i was with him. So if i were you, i would back right off. Let her do the deciding in this relationship, let her make the plans let her ask you to hang out. Dont act too serious with her and concentrate more on your own life more than your relationship together. That would be the smart thing to do here i think..
If i have really wanted to be with a guy, i have always made it obvious, made time for him no matter what etc.. I dont think a girl who is actually serious about someone realy has doubts at all. Thats just my 2 cents.. So tread carefully.
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