Ive posted this in other sections but I usually only get answers from men.. please only respond if you are female, as I need their point of view.. thank you.
TO summarize, otherwise it will be a realy long post...
pretty much my ex broke up with me NOT because she didnt have feelings for me, but because her ex and things that happened with him keep creeping up and she swept the issues under a rug and now the rug is being lifted. Her and I dated about two weeks after they broke up (they were together 7 months and were engaged.) She said "i just need time to be single and get my head straight" I asked her if she meant she just doesnt want to date me.. she said.. "no,i dont want to date anyone." She was adamant about NOT wanting to get back with her ex as well.. She also hinted that when shes ready if I am still single we could get back together. I know I need to move on, but is it wrong to hang onto this, because I really felt something strong about her. Is space my best course of action here? She wound up contacting me the next day looking for a tanktop (which i personally dont think i had ever seen.) She also hadnt been at my place in a week.. so why look for it now? Was she just opening up dialog asking about a 12 dollar shirt? I responded a day later.
ANother thing, she would constantly tell me how much she liked being with me etc, and how much her parents loved me and how that is important to her etc...
So i guess my question is.. on Saturday she graduates with her Masters, and I was supposed to go. I was going to wait until monday and just send her a text and say "congratulations on your graduation." Is this too soon to contact her? I know she needs space, and dont want to smother her. Thank you for reading this and for the help
I am just REALLY confused.