Relapse.

[Toddstar]

Well...I recently posted that we all will get over our exes. And we all will. But last night my ex contacted me about our son, and she has been contacting me more frequently recently and...well, I guess it started to bring up unresolved feelings I obviously still had for her. She knows that I have been seeing people and I am know she has been as well but in a moment of weakness I dropped this text which I regret now:

"I always liked you, I always will love you. I don't agree with what you do. I don't like what you have done but my heart will always hold a special place for you. Always. I know you are someone else's love now. That doesn't mean I have forgotten you."

Her response was:

"You should not say such things when you are with someone. If I was her I'd be pissed. Move forward, I am just an acquaintance now."

Ouch. That stung. I didnt sleep well last night. All the feelings I have been slowly destroying in me, the anxiety of her with another man, the inabaility to be with her and our son...I can deal with those. But the final blow of her saying I need to move forward and she is just an acquaintance now...that HURT.

I am not sure why I am hurting so much about this. Any advice?

[DarkHelmet82]

thats the million dollar question dude... i havent slept in three days. lol

[Toddstar]

Wow. I am not sure why we let these types of things to happen to ourselves. I KNOW we werent good for each other. I KNOW I dont want to be with her again. I KNOW I can do better eventually. So why do I get hurt when she says move on? EVERYONE tells me to move on! That doesnt hurt. She tells and it hurts!

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah, im in the same boat.. but my ex hasnt said that to me yet... I still have hope.. if she were to say that Im sure I would be in the same boat as you...

[Toddstar]

Its awfully liberating as well as awfully painful. I dont wish it upon anyone but I guess now I know officially.

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah that is the best you will get to "closure"

[confusius]

It sucks. That always hurts like crazy

[confusius]

My ex said it to me. She even said she would help me find another girl. Weird I know. That really hurt me.

[smackie9]

Time heals all wounds......You DO have to make every effort to move on and stop looking at it as a bad thing.....it's healthy for all concerned.

[pisces25]

Coming from her hurts because it is so final. When other people say it it doesn't hurt as that tiny part in you still has hope (even if you don't want reconciliation and your intellectual part knows this) so when it comes straight from the horses mouth it hurts. It may be an ego thing too, our ego hurts with any sort of rejection.
Good luck moving on. Don't beat yourself up about the text. Without it and without her response you would still be in hopeland. Accepting it is actually 100% over is the first step in the healing process. It will get easier from now.