I need to make it until June

[DarkHelmet82]

but yeah 15 days i can do this!

[Petit Papillon]

IMO, if you would want to let it go and move on, you would make yourself do it. But obviously, you don't really want to let it go, so suffer

[DarkHelmet82]

obviously you have nothing constructive to say and have no knowlege of my siuation.. thank you tho

[Petit Papillon]

Loool . All I need to know is that you had a gf/bf , broke up (for a reason) and now need to move on, but you really don't want to move on and you choose to complain about the difficulty of moving on instead. Simple as that. I'm not going to produce more text, cause it won't change anything and I have to save my fingers for something else. And you get enough comfort from others. What I wanted tp say is that you choose to suffer instead of telling yourself once and firmly " IT'S OVER , NEXXXXXXT" . So suffer, warrior of eternal love

[DarkHelmet82]

Nobody says i havent moved on.. but Im not a guy who just bangs women and then "moves on to the next" If i find someone great, but that doesn't mean I dont want to relinquish the relationship I had with her.. theres nothing wrong with TRYING MY BEST to either reconcile or get Closure.

there are NO absolutes! and EVERY situation is different.. somethign that may work for you may not work for me and vice versa

[Petit Papillon]

But you suffer right? Wouldn't you want to stop the pain ? Why are you doing the opposite then ?

[DarkHelmet82]

But you suffer right? Wouldn't you want to stop the pain ? Why are you doing the opposite then ?

yeah i know.. im sorry.. i do.. i just want to be happy, and this is probably wrong.. but SHE mad my life brighter.. this is just something I need to do.. i wouldnt be able to forgive myself if i didnt try.. just how it is..

[sookie6]

Loool . All I need to know is that you had a gf/bf , broke up (for a reason) and now need to move on, but you really don't want to move on and you choose to complain about the difficulty of moving on instead. Simple as that. I'm not going to produce more text, cause it won't change anything and I have to save my fingers for something else. And you get enough comfort from others. What I wanted tp say is that you choose to suffer instead of telling yourself once and firmly " IT'S OVER , NEXXXXXXT" . So suffer, warrior of eternal love

Some members are still in the cyclone tail so to speak...meaning too short a time after the break-up to not the feel the pain and not long enough to feel like they've had closure.

When you said 'simple as that' in the above post I could not help thinking you were being a bit insensitive about the OP's feelings.

There has been a few posts today from people who really having a shitty post break-up time and yes we want them to move on but we can't be too harsh about.

Imagine your state of mind if your relationship was over overnight..do you think you would recover in weeks or in months?

As time goes by they will naturally move on

[Petit Papillon]

Some members are still in the cyclone tail so to speak...meaning too short a time after the break-up to not the feel the pain and not long enough to feel like they've had closure.

When you said 'simple as that' in the above post I could not help thinking you were being a bit insensitive about the OP's feelings.

There has been a few posts today from people who really having a shitty post break-up time and yes we want them to move on but we can't be too harsh about.

Imagine your state of mind if your relationship was over overnight..do you think you would recover in weeks or in months?

As time goes by they will naturally move on

I've checked it cause I was pretty sure that I noticed Darkhelmet posting similar threads and posts since a long time... He broke up almost 4 months ago! Geez. It's nothing fresh you know ? I could understand few weeks fresh break up but 4 months is a bit much to feel so bad ... And I will quote him :

Why pretend to be into someone for months... it doesnt make sense. she was TOTALLy into me than something changed and literally overnight...

From this part of his post I could assume they were together FEW MONTHS. Then ehmm shouldn't be mourning adequate to the lenght of a relationship ?

I know I sounded a bit harsh ,but people tend to make things much more difficult, I don't understand why? Why one would like all the drama and so ... Simple is better . And we shouldn't encourage people to cry over things that are done already... Not for months.

And Darkhelmet said

yeah i know.. im sorry.. i do.. i just want to be happy, and this is probably wrong.. but SHE mad my life brighter.. this is just something I need to do.. i wouldnt be able to forgive myself if i didnt try.. just how it is..

Exactly, you hang onto something that "WAS" once , but will never be again... You hurt yourself , you want to hurt yourself. It's not healthy, but if you like to feel pain, do it .

[DarkHelmet82]

no thats a different girl.. its been two weeks today.. that was a different girl

[steviej]

Ignore, too slow!

[Petit Papillon]

no thats a different girl.. its been two weeks today.. that was a different girl

Wait, no , I have better thing to say. If you forgot this other girl so quick, I promise you, you will forget this one even earlier

[smackie9]

I dunno....I been in your shoes before and the end result was letting go.....wish I had done it sooner.

[DarkHelmet82]

I dunno....I been in your shoes before and the end result was letting go.....wish I had done it sooner.

I know I know.. but this is something I just need to do.. i wouldnt be able to forgive myself always wondering... what if...

[Petit Papillon]

Hmm what if? You dated her tops 2 months... You can't even call it a real relationship and you're crying over her? I know I'm sounding harsh, BUT you seem to have same problem with every women you're with. Maybe there's a problem you have but you're not telling us. Of course you will not tell us every detail that would make you look worse or something, but you sound a bit insecure ... I mean a lot insecure ... You grow attached to women so quick and you have problems letting them go . You are actually like my brother , I can't tell him to talk to a therapist, but I can tell you. If you have even small feeling that you need to talk to someone who could show you how to deal with women,relationships and feelings overall, maybe do it. And no , I don't mean people from an internet forum. It will never have such a big impact on you like a talk to a specialist.