Im recently divorced with 1 young child, I have been seeing this lady that is also recently divorced that has 3 young kids. We seemed to hit it off and the first 3 weeks we talked nonstop either by email or phone, everything seemed to be going good. We would always try to work-in seeing each other at some point in the day or week.
Now, for about the last 3 weeks, she has been very distant, doesnt always reply back to messages and doesnt seem to want to put forth any effort in trying to see one another. I have confronted her several times about it, and she always says she is still interested and not seeing anyone else, she just has a lot going on with the kids, work and everyday life. I also think she has money problems and also doesn't have a lot of people that help her with her kids. Anyway, I try my hardest to believe that she is still interested, but when you go from nonstop talking...want to see you kind of talk to rarely even replying back, I just feel like she has either moved on to someone else or lost interest. There are a few days where she will reply back to me on a regular basis, and then the next day nothing. If I stop sending her messages for a day, she will just all of a sudden send me a text with general chat, and then we will reply back and forth maybe 2 or 3 times and then I hear nothing else from her. What is up with this, I like this girl and I know its tough with 3 kids and the daily life, but is that what the problem really is? Sometimes I think she is just keeping me on the sidelines as a backup. I have offered my help if she ever needs anything, but she has always bypassed the issue or said no. I cant even seem to be able to arrange a date with her or a playdate at the park with all of the kids.
Also, she does seem to be able to find time for other events without me, and I have noticed that she will also go to the park with just her kids and never ask me if I want to take my son also. Also, there are times I can text her and never hear nothing back, but I can look online and she is on facebook.
I just dont understand why she wouldnt tell me she has lost interest or moved on if thats the case, and I also dont know why she would communicate with me if I dont communicate with her for a day or so. Im just looking for some advice to see if I should stick around, give it more time, or just move on?