This is going to be a little long, but I need to explain some stuff before I think my question can be answered. Ill try to make it as short as possible.
Almost 2 years ago I moved in with a friends brother and a couple of his roomamates. I needed a place to stay while my house was being built. I was 23 at the time and they were 18-20ish. I never really interacted with them. They tending to party every night which was annoying. After being there a few months, they had this girl who hung out at our place a lot. One day I came in and they were all in the downstairs room having sex with this girl. I had talked to the girl a few times, and was kinda bothered by it. I thought she was being taken advantage of by these guys. This went on all the time, she pretty much bed hoping with these guys till the time I moved out.
About a week before I left I was laying on my bed watching TV when she came in and laid down beside me. We started talking and ended up chatting for several hours. We went out to eat and had a pretty decent time. When we got back we sat out in the car and I plain out asked her why she thought she needed to sleep with the guys at the house. She broke down crying and told me a lot about herself and how her mom kicked her out and she didnt have a place to go and felt that was the only way she could have a place to stay. I told her she could stay in my room and not worry about anything.
The day I packed up and moved my stuff to my new house she was really sad that I was leaving. I told her everything would be fine. I thought really long and hard and before I left, I told her she could come stay at my place till she could get back on her feet.
I told her till I can get her a bed, she could sleep in the bed with me, Ill just sleep on top of the covers. I had a king size bed so no biggie. I never once though about this girl in a way other than friend. She was smoking hot but she was a bit young at only 18.
Ok, so fast forward 6 months and well, things are really strange. We still sleep in the same bed and under the same covers. We even take showers together (its a walk in big enough for two and with two shower heads). I dont think nothing about it, I work a ton and she keeps the house clean and fixes supper a lot. Perfect roommate imo. I began dating a girl, nothing serious, but I noticed my roomates attitude towards me was changing. She started ignoring me, and just really short with me. She started dating guys and telling me stories I really didnt want to hear. Over a bit of time, I realized she was jelous. It didnt make sense to me, I thought we had an understanding. After about a month of dating this girl, we broke up because she couldnt handle me living with another girl, let alone sleeping in the same bed.
Now, fast forward to two weeks ago. I did somthing I have never done, I brought a girl back that I just met. I asked Trish if she minded staying out of the room for a little while. She got sooo pissed. She was like fine, and slammed the door. About 10 minutes into being with this girl, Trish throws open the door. She is balling crying, screaming at me, telling me that she is in love with me. She begins to pull me off the bed and tells the girl to please leave. WOW. After the girl gets her cloths on and leaves, Trish breaks down and tells me how she has been in love with me and has been waiting for me to show her the same interest. She kisses me, and asks me why we cant be togheter. I told her, and honeslty, it was because im not sure I want to be with someone who will sleep with anyone. She has slept with a lot of guys, and I mean a lot. I told her I needed to think about things. We havent spoke much since then, but I have been thinking.
Im really confused, I am 25 and she just turned 20, I have my career and good job. She barely finished high school and works a part time job. When I think of any relation ship with her, I keep thinking about seeing her doing things with 4 guys in that room and all those times I could hear her in other rooms with different guys. Shes told me she isnt like that anymore. That it came from when she was 15 dating a 20 year old guy that was all about sharing her with his friends. I really like her, shes sweet and we get along and all. I just dont know what to do. Is it possibe to get over the things I know about her? Is it possible to have a meaningful relationship with this girl? When I think of it, the only thing we dont do is sex. I mean we see each other naked, we sleep in the same bed. We just dont have the physical relationship.
Any thoughts would be great. I really dont have anyone to talk about this with, so I have to rely on strangers. Thanks for any help or thoughts you can provide!