Trying to understand whats going on?

[dakmyr]

My ex and I broke up last week. I was a little confused why we broke up to being with. The morning started just like any other normal day texting, “I love you babe have a good day, xoxo”. Later that day I ask if we could see each other tonight and she said no cause she was going to have a girl night out. I text her back and said “oh ok have fun tonight”. The next morning I get a text saying “hope you have a good day, I’ll call you later” I asked her is everything ok she says “its ok I just want to slow down, we can’t be looking at rings and talking about all that serious stuff. I replied back saying I’m not looking to get married I really only wanted her thoughts on it cause, her friends keep telling me I need to marry her because she is a great girl and I was a great guy for her. Later that night I get the call from her that she doesn’t know what she wants and wants to slow down and be alone. She said I didn’t do anything wrong, I know I didn’t to because I didn’t cheat, lying or hit her in anyway. She told me that she would call me again the next day so I went home to think about what she has said and waited for the call to come the next day.

She called me the next day and I still had a loss for words when she called. I didn’t argue with her about it, just really tired to understand what was going on and why we couldn’t work things out together. I told her I support the break because I truly love and care her. I told if she needed anything to call me. I know she was going through a hard time with hormones from her first depo shot. She was having anxiety, and light panic attach, slowly hit a little depression too. She told me she needed space and wanted to be alone. She said she didn’t want to rush things like talking about rings or getting married. She promises it wasn’t me or nothing I did.

Two days later I see that she has ended the relationship on facebook, but still keep me as a friend along with the friends from her girl’s night. We haven’t text, called, or facebook each other in seven days because I am really trying to give her space in hopes things my smooth over. Four days after the split I see her driving coming towards me down the road as she passes by she smile and waves to me. I was blown away at this point. Later that night I get on facebook to see that she has wrote this. "good life= roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to wear, job to go to, a way to get there (your job= a vehicle), and love in your heart (family, friends, and animals included).....that is the definition of the "good life" . so thankful!!!!! " So if anyone can analyze any of this yet me know.

[Cerby]

How old are you two?

[dakmyr]

Shes 28, I'm just short of 26.

[Boisdevie]

She sounds like a child who does not know what she wants. I'd ignore her.

[ShellyZ]

I blame the Depo shot. I've never had it, but I've heard it wreaks havoc on mind and body. She's gonna get fat from it too.

[jb1111983]

Seems to me like she isn't sure if you're the one she'd like to be with for life. Maybe the talk/joke about marriage sacred her. She broke up with you because she doesn't wanna string you along and give you hope when in all honesty she doesn't know if she really wants you for life. I'd make myself less available to her. Give her time and space to sort out her confusion.