Messed it up

[Tuacafirfly]

I am recently separated and had been hanging out with this great guy I've know for about three years. There's an eleven year age gap with us (I'm older) but we got along great. When we first started hanging out i asked what he was looking for and he said nothing serious because of my situation. And I was cool with that.

Here's what I don't get, he was the one that did most of the texting, if he didn't here form me by like noon he'd text me to see if I was ok, what I was doing. He would ask me to hang out. I did ask him to do some things with me and/or my friends. And if you were to ask my friends, it looked like we we dating. The way he acted towards me in public, etc. But he and I never put a label on it. We did more hanging out than hooking up. And the hooking up was amazing.

A couple of weeks ago he was out with his and I was out with mine on opppsite sides of town. we texted a bit and when last call came I asked if he wanted to hang out that night. He said he was on the other side of town and not driving. I told him that I didn't want to go home cuase my ex and I are fighting (yes I'm still in the same house, saving $$ to move out). He said he was sorry. I was very drunk and didn't want to drive so I told him I was going to pass out in my car and asked if he could check on me on his way home, he had to pass the place tp get to his house.

Well I woke up about 3:30, still drunk, text him and asked if he was home, no answer. In my drunk stupid state and thought it would be a good idea to see if he was home and I drove by his house. Looked like no one was home.

The next day I text him and apologized for the text and said it would never happen again, never heard from him. The day after that I text him and he responded that I freaked him out when he saw me outside his that night. Told him I was drunk and not thinking right and apologized again and asked if we were still cool. He said that "we" should back off a bit at least until I get my head right. Told him I was ok now and he said that he thinks it's for the best. I

I had left my car remote at his hosue and asked if I could come get it, he said he'd leave it in his mailbox. I havent' been by to get it. He hasn't deleted me from facebook, has even liked some pics i put up and commented on a post i made. I sent him a text Saturday night saying I know I probably shouldnt be texting you but just wanted to say hi and sorry I hadn't been by to get my remote but I'd been busy. All he said back was OK.

I know I acted stupid and wasn't thinking clearly that night. He and I seemed to have a real connection, we had a lot of fun together, both in and out of the bedroom. Is there any hope that we can get back to like we were?

[Gratedwasabi]

How did he see you outside his house if you just drove by? He was staring out the window and recognized your car in the dark? Something doesn't add up there.

And I would refuse to get into a relationship with a woman living with her ex, too. I don't think any rational man would.

[Tuacafirfly]

Don't know how he saw me. And I understand about getting involved with someone living with their ex, he knew the situation and kept seeing me. I am working on moving out and starting the divorce process. We started seeing each other before my he and I decided to divorce so he knew what he was getting into when we started. He introduced me to his friends and him to mine.

[Wakeup]

Don't know how he saw me. And I understand about getting involved with someone living with their ex, he knew the situation and kept seeing me. I am working on moving out and starting the divorce process. We started seeing each other before my he and I decided to divorce so he knew what he was getting into when we started. He introduced me to his friends and him to mine.

Sure he kept seeing you.. you were providing no strings attached sex. The min you started tryng to attach some strings ... he bolts on you.

He said that "we" should back off a bit at least until I get my head right. Told him I was ok now and he said that he thinks it's for the best.

He's right. You need to finish one relationship before you start another. You need to stop drinking to the point of being drunk. You should learn to live on your own and be happy and successful while doing it before you attempt to be with another guy.

Get your remote and refrain from creeping his facebook and anyother social networking sites. It will only drive you batty. Drive-bys are for the insecure and vulnerable. Don't be that girl.