Divorce? Or can i win her Back?

[MrPedantic]

Hi i'm twenty five and my wife has essentially kicked me out saying she wants a divorce. We have two children and have been married for just under 4yrs. i have suffered with depression since just after our son was born and have never really come out of it.Whilst in my depressed state i became distant, unaffectionate and compulsive to the point i would ignore her and the children for whatever my compulsion was at the time. this has gone on for the majority of our marriage about 2 1/2 to 3 yrs and has upset her as i never dealt with it. It came to a head the other week, when she thought i was going to hurt our daughter (something i would never do) and she left only to return to the family home a week later to ask me to leave i have been out of the house for two weeks at posting. She says she knows i love her but that she does not love me any more and never will again that she won't come back. i have sorted my depression now and am on medication and am soon to start counceling i have got her to agree to wait for two years to get divorced but she keeps telling me she doesn't want me to try. i have also said that i will at the end of the two years if we are not together i will sign the papers and help pay for the divorce.i am also concentrating on my time with the kids and have access.should i give up or should i keep going can i win her back or am i being a jaded hopeless romantic please tell me what you think

[Boisdevie]

Your divorce is inevitable. Your ex wife is your EX WIFE.
It is over

[surfhb]

She already told you the way things are going to be

[devonbrown]

While I applaud you for getting help for your depression, the fact is you waited until you hit rock bottom to do it (getting thrown out of your home). You recognized you had a problem, but you didn't respect her or yourself enough to get help for it. This obviously effected your relationship with your life and very likely could have damaged your relationship with your children.

The problem with waiting until you hit rock bottom is that there is often no going back, that often the damage has already been done.

That may be the case here. What you should do is concentrate on getting yourself together. Work with a therapist, keep on your medication, make yourself good. Make yourself YOU again. Concentrate on being a good father. And try to be a friend to your ex-wife. She may have fallen out of love with you based on who you became when depressed. Maybe she will love you again when she sees you trying hard to become the person she fell in love with originally. But there is no guarantee of that, so don't put all your eggs in that basket. Just make sure you are good and fit to be a good father and person.

I am sorry that this is probably not what you want to hear, but it is the best advice I can offer.

Good luck.

[MrPedantic]

thanx for the honesty, in fact its exactly what i needed to hear