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    after how much time, reconciliation is not possible..

    i had a break up with my gf 6 months ago.... is this very long period?

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    Six months is an awkward time interval for reconciliation. It's too long to just pick up where you left off, but it's not enough time for either of you to grow and improve as people since the breakup. Whatever problems drove you apart in the first place are probably still there, unresolved.
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    It's never too late to try....

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    Quote Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 View Post
    Six months is an awkward time interval for reconciliation. It's too long to just pick up where you left off, but it's not enough time for either of you to grow and improve as people since the breakup. Whatever problems drove you apart in the first place are probably still there, unresolved.
    well my ex wanted a break up.also i think 6 months has changed me...

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    The chances of a relationship working again after a breakup is very close to zero.

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    well my ex wanted a break up.also i think 6 months has changed me...
    "i think 6 months has changed me" = six months hasn't changed you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by flynhayn View Post
    "i think 6 months has changed me" = six months hasn't changed you.
    why you feeling such?

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    I don't think there is an answer to this. The question is should you get back together and the answer to that is a personal decision.

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    why you feeling such?
    2 reasons.... 1) No one says "i think" about something they're not sure of. If you truly made a change you would be way more sure of yourself than that. 2) NO ONE changes in 6 months. Starting down the right path to change can happen in 6 months, but completing a true change takes years. It's just a harsh reality.... I used to think I could do it but I was only kidding myself.

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    getting back together is always possible. It will just be a fresh start without all the old feelings from the previous time.

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    I've heard that it takes men 6 - 12 months to begin to reflect and either get over a relationship or want to reconcile. With that said I agree that 6 months doesn't seem like enough time to really change...to begin to change yes, but to actually change probably not. I think you might be able to reconcile as friends at this point but probably not as lovers. 10-12 months I think is a good starting point to consider reconciliation in terms of getting back together. But I also think it depends on why you broke up and how the relationship was as well as the people involved. Sometimes 6 months could be enough time..but generally i don't think it is.

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