Hey guys,
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about a year now, but it's been on and off, but we've stuck through and committed for about 6 months. Last Sunday was her birthday and I found out that her ex boyfriend had asked her out to dinner for her birthday. Now this wouldn't really be a problem I guess if it was firstly not on her birthday and secondly if there were other people going as well, but what bothers me is that her ex still likes her and she knows that and she does tell me she doesn't like him any more except that they've always been close mates. I respect that they are close mates, but personally I think a birthday dinner with an ex who still likes her is going a tad overboard and I just don't know whether i'm seriously being paranoid about the whole situation or if it's okay. Although, she did say no to the dinner without any of my input. What also bothers me is that she didn't tell me that her ex had asked her to dinner. The ex also knows that she is going out with me.
Fast forward to now, 4 days after her birthday, we've been talking and she raised the issue that she doesn't get why she can't go out to dinners with an ex. I tried telling her and gave her the example of an ex of mine asking me out for a birthday dinner in which she says she would be completely fine with it? Don't get me wrong, i do trust her and i'm not trying to control her life in any way, but i just don't think dinners with an ex is appropriate, especially on her birthday. So am i just being paranoid? And that there is nothing wrong with having dinner with an ex? I really don't know what to do up to this point.