Porn after sex,does it mean anything?

[anne1253]

My boyfriend of eight years has started to watch porn and try to hide it from me. I understand guys watch porn even ones with girlfriend's but he didn't watch it regularly until just recently and it tends to be as soon as I walk out the door, and even more so right after we have sex. While it is normal for guys with girlfriend's to watch porn, is it normal for them to watch it right after they finish having sex? Also, he won't watch it with me and like I said even though he knows I know he has been watching it he still hides it. I tried to show him it is ok by watching it myself and showing him that I was watching it but that did'nt make a difference.

[maxmax]

Sex after porn makes more sense to me ...

[Windmillback]

Once you watch porn, you want more and more until a sort of spell that you are in takes it's course. Since he is watching porn, the likelyhood is that he is seeing sexual acts that he is not having with you. Be careful with that emotion. You don't have to try to perform like the pornstars do, there will be no end to it, but talk with him about in an understanding way. Hiding it from you and not wanting to watch it with you is because of a combination of respect for you and being emberrassed in front of you. You openly knowing about it, which is something that he lets happen is out of a sense of being honest with you. I am not taking your guy"s side, just trying to explain to you what is going on in his head.

[steviej]

Does he cum when having sex with you, or finish himself off to porn?

[Yet another guy]

How do you know he does it as soon as you walk out the door?
It's not a problem though, is it? Most guys are too sensitive down there after sex to do it again so it's not like he could be having sex with you instead.
My guess is that he has some fetish that he knows you wouldn't be into and wants to keep it secret so you wouldn't feel uncomfortable. That's just a guess though, it could be anything really.

[anne1253]

He finishes with me.

Does he cum when having sex with you, or finish himself off to porn?

[anne1253]

I check his history on his computer he deletes it in one place but not in another and it tells me what time he accessed it. Everytime I leave the house I show he looks at something. I'm not gone for long usually, so not usually long enough for him to rub one off. I only know for sure twice that he actually masterbated to it, because he did it in a towel both times and I do all the laundry and those two times he used somethings I bought from the porn store for us to use to together, one being 2 in one lube/massage oil and another being a cock ring with vibe. The only one he looks at that is something he wants(we talked about it) but can't have at least right now is a threesome, but most of the time it is normal sex nothing we do not do and our sex seems bettter than some of it. He watched one anal video and deleted that one, so I do not think that fetish is an issue. The others he keeps and some he has watched more than once. I have also asked him when I found out about the porn if there was something he would like to try or whatever. He said no at first and then threw in except for a threesome and we talked about that but he doesnt expect that to happen. If that was the main porn he was watching i might understand, except for the whole watching it after we have sex thing. My only conclusion is that it is due to a couple of things 1) one of his newer friends sound like he is addicted to porn but he is single 2)I'm pregnant(but this wasn't a problem the last time I was pregnant) 3) we have had some relationship problems here and there 4) some of the times he is bored when I'm not home but that doesn't explain the 10 minutes it takes for me to take our kid to school that he stops whatever game or movie he was watching to flip it on for those 10 mins and turns it back on when I pull in the driveway. When I told him I knew about the porn, he just said he was a guy and suppose to watch it or some crap like that and when I indicated I knew about he use of the oil and the cock ring he pretended he didn't know what I was talking about.

[thundersw]

Watching porn is not something you do with your girlfriend, it's personal! Watching your girlfriend watching you whacking off really hard kills the thrill right away.
Maybe you just can't keep up with his libido?

[doppelgaenger]

Just give him some privacy and everything will be O.K.

[zerokool189]

I'd give him private time like some of these guys said. I was in a relationship for a long time and would do the same! I loved my girlfriend more than anything and would never cheat on her. I think doing it on the side helped keep me in check.

[MrManups]

No it's not normal in my opinion, If you have a GF or wife, STOP WATCHING PORN. FULL STOP. - Give him more sexual attention, role play something..

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Me and my partner have a good sex life and he also watches porn. Its not full blown stuff just small vids that I know he watches on the web but as long as our sex life doesnt suffer I'm fine with it.

I know his paterns as to when he'll view abit depending on what shifts he works and when his days off are.

But seriously, as long as you are both ok intimately then you have nothing to worry about.

I myself had an issue with it until recently but I figured as long as its not harming us there is no issue.