So I met girl last year, shortly after she had gotten out of a horrible relationship which she said she shouldn't have stayed in as long as she did. Basically, the guy treated her very poorly and confused her mind with what she really deserves. I asked her out on a date and she accepted. We had a good time, but I could tell something was holding her back, which I imagine was her ex boyfriend (relationship ended I believe 2 months prior). After the date, we texted back and forth some, but her responses became less and less, so instead of pushing her I let her have some space to figure things out, and we essentially went our separate ways.
Fast forward approximately 1 year later:
She randomly text me out of the blue, asking what I've been up to and if we could hang out. I say of course, I really liked this girl, and hoped this time she had her things figured out and was ready to move on. We text back and forth, and she apologizes about how things ended last year, and says she screwed up and just hoped I would give her another chance. I'm thinking, great, this is perfect, and everything was for the first few weeks. We went on multiple dates, hang out just the two of us a bunch, and she even invited me to her family get together. Everything was great when we were together, we both were joking back and forth, laughing, smiling, just enjoying each others company.
Then, out of no where, it's like something changed in her mind, and she doesn't text me back as quickly as before, her responses are vague and noticeably shorter than previously, her tone is just different. At first, I think maybe it's just *that time of the month*, so I give her some space, and think she will contact me when everything clears up. Nope, nothing. So after a couple of days, I call her and she says she doesn't feel well, allergies, and she doesn't sound well at all. Normally, if in this situation, I'd bring her something to help make her feel better, but with this girl we didn't have an established relationship, and I don't want to appear too clingy/desperate. It's been a couple of days since this and I still haven't heard back from her.
Like I said, I don't want to be pushy because we are both busy people, (I'm 23, she is 21), and I'm not trying to force her into a relationship she doesn't want to be in. I just get the feeling she is hesitant, or resistant to me, because of the way her last boyfriend abused her. Like I said when ever we are together, everything is GREAT, we have so much fun and even get a little bit intimate, which she would intimate just as much if not even more so than I would. I just feel like I'm losing her for the wrong reasons, and I want to do something, but I don't know what. I don't want to just sit idle and let her make some assumption based on her last boyfriend, who couldn't be any further away from the type of people I am. But I also don't want to come off as clingy and needy.
I almost feel like this is a damned if I do; damned if I don't situation.