Just not that into me??!!!

[hollygolightly1]

Hi everybody -

Will try and keep this short for my first post, but wanted some advice...!!!!

Okay, so I met this guy through work. We worked in different departments and I didn't really know him very well, but we got chatting via email, exchanged mobile (cell) phone numbers and were texting etc. Anyway, he asked me if I'd like to go out for a drink with him, so I agreed and we met up and went out properly last week.

Okay... so, we go for a drink and the conversation is really flowing, no awkward silences, and I thought we were getting on really well. He then suggests we go on to a quieter place so we can sit and talk so more, so we find another place, sit down and two hours later we're still chatting, so he asks if I'd eaten and whether I'd like to go and have dinner with him. By this point, if I wasn't feeling a connection, I would have knocked dinner on the head, made my excuses and headed home, but we were getting on so well that I thought I'd go.

So we go for dinner, everything going really well and by the time we'd finished eating, it was quite late, so we walk back to the carpark in town where our cars are - we'd come from work and we live in opposite directions. So we sort the carpark out and then the whole evening turns upside down on it's head. He just couldn't wait to get into his car and get away. No goodnight kiss, no peck on the cheek, nothing. So, off he goes and I am sitting in my car thinking what was this evening all about, I'd obviously misread the signals and he wasn't into me at all - had he been, surely he would have kissed me??

So I drive home and am feeling quite flat after such a good evening. I decide not to make any contact with him, but then a girflriend says that I had nothign to lose by sending him a text message to say thank you for a nice evening. So I do just that and think I won't make anymore contact and if he wants to contact me, the ball is in his court. So he replies back saying he had a really lovely evening with me too and we would have to catch up again soon. I kept going over and over the words "catch up soon." I mean, I barely knew the guy, we'd been flirting over email, he kept saying all evening that he shouldnt' have said x, y or z or he'd blow his chances etc. I decided not to reply and then on Monday, he sends me a message, asking me how I am, how my day has been etc. So I reply to that. Yesterday it was his birthdaty, so I sent him a card and then he sends me several jokey but cute messages and tonight emailed me to say that he had a friend's birthday party to go to on Saturday, but he would catch up with me soon...

I have no idea what this guy is thinking - not sure if he sees me as a friend, whether he's just being polite and doesnt want to tell me he's not into me or what. I am trying not to overanalyse this, but I actually really like this guy a lot and I'm feeling really confused whetehr he is playing with my feelinsgs or just doesn't haev the gutst o say it was a nice evening, bu tthere was no spark...

Some thoughts would be welcomed....!!!

xxxxx

[Wakeup]

I think it's too early to tell if he's into you or just being polite. For all you know, dinner went right through him and he hi-taled it out of there before he crapped his pants????

He said he'd contact you "soon" because he was busy this Saturday so why don't you chill and keep yourself busy and stop hanging so much on this guy. Surely you have other options in your fun and busy single life and if he doesn't call you back then pffft... Next!

[MerryH]

He probably chickened out at the end of the date and just got awkward.

He asked you out on a date, it went well, and he's implying that you'll go out again. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Just see how it goes.