How to minimize flakes for casual sex?

[kevin32]

I'd appreciate some advice from someone who's been there, done that.

Okay, I go to craigslist to meet women for casual sex. I write steamy, attractive ads. I know they're attractive because I get good responses. I don't mean from escorts, or spammers trying to get me to sign up to a dating site. I'm talking about women in town who actually take the time to comment about my ad, and then share details about themselves, what part of town they live, their expectations, etc.

I calmly let women know upfront that I'm only interested in casual, no strings attached sex, that I'm DD free and clean, that I use protection, and that I'm discreet. We exchange pics, and some even give me their number. I then arrange a day and time we should get together. While I prefer that we meet at my place or hers, I'll even suggest that we first meet in a public setting like a bar or the mall, if that makes her more comfortable. Whether we meet in public or private, these women seem to be okay with the plan.

But when it comes time to actually meet, they flake out. Usual excuses like "something came up", or "I've had a long day and was tired", or "I couldn't find a babysitter." And they don't even follow up with a day or time that's good for them.

Now I realize that craigslist isn't a bar where you can get a good feel for a person when you first meet them. But these women consciously responded to a casual sex ad, knowing what to expect, and then flake out at the last minute. Sometimes I wonder if they respond just to get some cheap thrill of attention, knowing in advance that they're not going to commit. But I don't appreciate my time being wasted. If you're really serious about getting together, let's make it happen.

So will someone please tell me why a woman flakes out for casual sex and what I can do to minimize this? What works and what doesn't? What steps should be taken to guide her comfortably through the process? I'd appreciate both a man's and woman's perspective on this. Thank you.

[pepper]

If a woman wants to back out at the last moment then that is her right. You should not be trying to persaude someone to do something they do not want to do. Maybe you should not be asking how to get women to not flake out on you and instead try to find out why you are looking for sex partners on craigslist. Be a man...

[wolfie91]

Why not just go to a bar...?

[tremolo]

I can't imagine why any woman would go blindly meet some guy who just wants to nail her and never speak to her again.

That these women flake out is really not surprising to me.

[DannyH]

the craiglist killer may have some tips..... seriously doing what your doing can lead to 3 fun scenarios. A porno flick, horror flick or an episode of Maury. 2 out of 3 are pretty bad.... actually all 3 can be if you seen.....well nm that. Just go to a bar or club so much easier, less time wasted.

[vashti]

i am dying to see what your ad looks like. I can't imagine anyone at all responding.

Anyway, I don't think you will find many women who would genuinely be interested in this arrangement. For most of us, our vaginas are tied to our heart strings.

[reeba]

Why not just go to Nevada?

[MerryH]

Moisturizer and/or medicated shampoo.

But seriously, I think the reason that a lot of people never follow through with actually meeting is because responding to a Craigslist ad sounds like a good idea in the heat of the moment or if in a certain horny mood, but once their mind is no lounger clouded by the illogical fog of horniness, it becomes clear that it's probably not a good idea.

But I don't appreciate my time being wasted.

Get over it. Sometimes a casual hookup works, more often it doesn't. That's just how it is. They don't owe you sex just because they responded to your ad.

[Charlie Boy II]

Lol I love the indignant tone of his post. I think what you're doing is pretty low-percentage. Maybe try a website for hook-ups only,

[Stix]

Isn't craigslist the American version of gumtree? Anyone who posts that kind of crap on gumtree is automatically a massive perv. Maybe some are just big fat men having a play with you.