i broke my girlfriends heart twice and now she doesnt have the spark

[ramire]

i was dating my ex girlfreind for 3 yrs but within those three years i broke her heart twice but she still manged to get back with me and love me the same. after i broke her heart the second time she still mangaged to come back to me but now she doesnt feel the spark anymore because she still cant overcome the scars i left her but she tells me she cares and loves but she also says she doesnt know if its the love i want . what do i do please help im trully heartbroken and its only been a day

[im_in_love]

Why would you think you have to do anything? YOU were the one who hurt HER, not the other way around. This is just a taste of your own medicine. If she's finally had enough of you and has no feelings for you anymore, you can't change her mind.

[Boisdevie]

You broke her heart and now you are in the shite =- ha ha ha

[lahnnabell]

She's drained her resources trying to continuously put all the pieces back together... You should do the honorable thing and let her go. She will be sad, but she'll get over it. And you, hopefully you'll learn something from this.

[ramire]

i hear what your saying but the thing is she does have feelings for me just not as much as i do and she says its not fair for me to love her 100 percent while shes only loving me 85 percent

[Wakeup]

What are we in here, a math class?

Dude; Karma is kicking your ass right now. You hurt this girl twice in a measly 3 years and you have the tenacity to come to this board and ask us for advice on how to keep her in your life so you can (more than likely) hurt her yet again in the near future... say what??? You're lucky she still talks to you.

You don't say how you hurt her? Care to share that info. Maybe you're not as bad as you have painted yourself to be.

[ramire]

ok well yea let me explain , i met this girl sophomore yr in highschool when she was a senior, the first year was amazing she always supported me and never left my side just as i did for her. i was an extremly talented football player and i had a good future coming for me and my girl. she graduted and stayed in a college near and once again we had amazing 2nd year with no breakups but alot of arguments hear and there but that was all normal. my senior yr came along and i had many scouts looking at me and everything seem so great i had it all , a beautiful smart loving women, a great football career, and most of all, i had a dream coming to life. It was my first last football came in my highschool career when it all began. I tore my acl,spraind my mcl, and it was all over for me and i was devestated. All my hardwork since i was 9 yrs old went down the drain and i became extremly depressed and i decided i couldnt handle having a gf with all this depression in me so i cut the coard with her and that was herfirst broken heart. From the day i tore my acl i should of never let her go but keep her by my side just as she always was and always wanted to be . I messed up there and she had no friends to care for her but only her family . i left her alone and she was heartbroke to the extrem. 3 weeks after our breakup i was in surgrey for my knee and after the surgrey i called her and she missed me but couldnt believe the action i had done. within those 3 weeks she had found out i was talking to this girl and wanted to hook up with her but that was partically true but i never wanted to hook up with any girl cause i loved my ex gf and she was the only women that could make me happy. My ex though was falling for some other guy already but i came on time to make her fall in love with me again so we were together again after 3 weeks and she forgave me cause of my depression and she forgave me cause she also was talking to somone but didnt want to hook up cause she still loved me . 6 months later passed and it was amazing we loved eachother the same and everything was perfect again , arguments here and there but that was ok and normal. Baseball season was about to start and i also was an amzing athelete for that to and we both were looking forward to baseball. once again i did something terrieble to her. I had decided to text this girl that was a sophmore in highschool that ran track with my gfs sister and they rarely talked but they ran together. my gf had found out about me texting this other girl it was nothing serious i didnt cheat on her i didnt hook up with her i didnt do anything just simple text. i hurt her once again because i disrespected her postion as a gf and lost her trust once again and at the same time i lied to her and told her my friend was the one texting with her but it was actually me and i ended up telling her the truth and she hated me for lieing and for disrespecting her and her family twice. so she broke up with me and once again she had a broken heart but she was smarter about it and she had friends , she went out , and once again a guy came in her life and wanted to be with her. 3 months passed and we still werent able to be togher she started liking this guy but realized he wasnt the one for her i was. she began to want to be with me again after 3 months and i decided to let her come back to my life again and one thing i forgot to say within the 3 months i only hung out with my guy friends and this girl liked me alot but i denied her and didnt want anything from her , i never kissed a girl i never did anything and my ex had mad out with the guy she liked but i was ok with it cause it was my fault and she hated me pluse she was single. so i had thought it was over for me because 3 months had passed and she was happy and i wasnt contacting her at all until she contacted me but she would wanna talk to me but then she wouldnt so she would stop talking to me and she would talk to the guy that loved her but she only liked him but just wanted to be friends and she would do that for about 2 weeks within the 3 months. i decided to not fall for her anymore and one day after not talking for a week she began to call my closet friends like crazy cause she wanted to go back with me cause she realized nobody can make her forget about me and she loved me still . i ignored her calls and she starting calling my mom and my mom loved her so she forced me to talk to her through my moms phone and my ex told me that she wanted to meet me and talk so we can work things out and get back toghether . so i fell for it and after a month i was deeply in love with her like always and she warned me that she didnt have the feelings she had back then for me and she said shell keep trying to get that spark back but then i just told her to dump me and she didnt want to cause she didnt want to her me and she didnt have the cuts cause shes never hurt me before and she wasnt that kinda girl but then i made her realize that she should hurt me now rather then later so she ended up dumping me because she lost the spark and said it wasnt gonna come back and she wasnt gonna feel the same love for me .She broke my heart for the first time and now im a depressed loner and i know that there are alot of guys that wanna be with my ex and i hate that and i dont know what to do since it was me who caused all this pain and sorrow i trully hate myself for my dumb mistakes but she saw me changing and she saw me trying my hardest to make her love me the same again and i succeeded but she just couldnt find that spark for me again .is she trully done with me this time or do i still have a chance with her

[Wakeup]

I don't know for sure whether you'll re-spark the original connection you both had but I do know just from what you've told us here that you need to move on now and if things are meant to be, when you've both finished school and grown up, perhaps you'll rekindle. I wouldn't wait around for her or keep some flame burning for her though. If you read your story back you can see the writing on the wall and if your football career had not been halted due to the injury (sorry that happend to you btw) then It's quite likely that you wouldn't be together anyway. What with you travelling all the time and getting the attention of sport groupies.. your ego (most likely) wouldn't let you stay faithful to her.

Go no contact and heal from your grief. Then get back out there and connect with someone new. You appear to have no trouble meeting woman so appreciate and adopt an abundance attitude and you'll get over her soon enough.
I think at this point you both need to explore relationships so that you can figure out who is best for you for the long haul.

Good luck.

[ramire]

so basically your saying that i lost her . and thank you for ur advice i appricate it alot