Been seeing a friend for sex and nothing else as we both said we did not want any thing more,problem is when we had spent time together he would text me to say it was amazing and all that anyway anyway i did end it other week and he said he did not want to and wanted to see where it went i was confused because he said from start it was sex anyway he has now said he does not want to carry on seeing me because he does not want a relationship and he likes me too much just to have sex with me ,eh I am confused because we have had sex rom the start so we using each other and i have not even mentioned any form of relationship at all .he said he can not sleep with me for sex any more cos he is not like that ,any advise cos I did enyoy it ,why would he want to finish it
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07-07-11, 02:09 AM #1
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07-07-11, 02:16 AM #2
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maybe hes gay, or wants more from you.......
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07-07-11, 03:24 AM #3
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He is contradicting himself. Better to just ask if he would like a relationship because you would like one.....if he says no then just walk away.
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07-07-11, 08:40 AM #4
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I think he may just need a break for awhile. I don't know many guys who are unwilling to be friends with benefits with women. Are you willing to give him some space to figure it out?
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He is Contradicting himself yes,says one thing then does another,he does find talking hard maybe he is shy I do not know .WE have always said we would see what happens with us ,so i am confused because we both did say at the start it was just friends having sex nothing more ,so I can not understand why any man who refuse sex when it has no strings to it ,does not make sense at all I am willing to give him space yes ,but why would anyone want space when its only sex ,this is what gets me and he says he can not use me just for saex cos he likes me too much ,well hang on w have been doing this for a good few weeks or so .we are not even talking now .
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09-07-11, 04:24 PM #6
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Time out.......is everyone reading what I'm reading. YOU ended it correct? He didn't want to because he says he cares to much for you.....right? Pretty sure that's what I'm reading, and if that's right it's pretty clear what happened. He fell for you in the middle of the FWB, now he can't bare only having a part of you. (sex) He now realizes he wants a relationship with you and if he can't have that he'd rather do without. He finished it because he wants to change the dynamic of the relationship. You should talk to him, sounds like he's hurt and confused as well.......mixed with him not being able to communicate well is disaster.
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09-07-11, 04:35 PM #7
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He said he would spend one full last day with passion with me and that is it! strange cos he does not wanna hurt me but still would spend a full day having a good time! does not make sense also when i confronted him in a message saying i never asked for relationship he never defended himself .I said its ok best to end it then and take care he said the full day still stands ,not sure but for someone who did not want a relationship as we both swaid we was not ready does not make sense.
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09-07-11, 05:08 PM #8
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wow, so you both agreed you weren't ready for relationships, but you manage to do FWB??? FWB takes to extremely mature individuals, both who know what they want and don't want. FWB IS a relationship, it's just not your typical type. I think neither of you are capable of FWB or any other relationship right now. He has some serious communication problems and you can't seem to put your foot down on what you really want.
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14-07-11, 07:24 PM #9
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Well He has made contact again and we have seen each other no sex this time and he says he will see me soon ,so much for not wanting to hurt me ect dont get me wrong I could of easily had sex with him but stopped myself ,he was fine with it tho and happy to cuddle ,anyone know why he would want to make contact again if he does not want a relationship and hurt my feelings by not having any sexual contact ,any ideas what i should do please ?
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I've often found that any circumstance that doesn't make any sense means that there was something about it that you weren't meant to understand. You're being kept in the dark.
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It sounds to me like he is being immature and it's strictly an ego thing regarding who has the upper hand. You ended it and he didn't like the position that put him in so he brought you back in only to do it to you. He doesn't want a relationship, he wants to be in control.
