Last 5 months i have been flirting very heavily with work colleague. we have gone out as a group of friends and kissed that night when no one was looking (her sister also massively came on to me! ssshhh! no one knows!), we have also kissed in work, had dreams of sleeping with each other flirt like mad. she gives me so much eye contact and im always the first to look away, as she keeps that eye contact on me for a long while (with a smile too).
BUT
last two weeks it has almost stopped completely and its doing my head in! espec as im falling for this women- big mistake!
we last kissed two weeks ago at work.
we dont meet up outside of work or text as she has kids and a very controlling ex husband who is around her house (that she owns) every evening! Why he is around i do not know! i have been told down the grape vine that its because he wants to keep an eye on them. yet i also know she does have feelings for him still (she told me), as ''he was her everything''. but apparently she wouldnt get back with him. he is a women hitter and controlling. fact. she knows she should get rid of him. fact. she has had help from friends in the past but in the end, she used up all her resources, friends turned their backs on her after a while. (she said she wont let me help as she doesnt want that to happen to us). ive been told other things like, she gets bored eaisly and im worried that has just happened.
if we were in a different city away from him (the ex), she would go on a date with me (her words, said to me yesterday). but what stops her is that she has kids and then the ex-husband who she is scared of.
so flirting has stopped (except a little yest- nothing today!), she has a crap background and no family except the ex's family, who she gets on with and so do kids.
what can i do, except the obvious and that is to drop it and move on (which i know is what will eventually happen). I like her, want to make it more, or at very least get flirting back on track.
(oh a week ago, when i was noticing flirting had stopped i straight up asked her, do you have a thing for me? (we had never spoken about it before) ''i like you alot yes'' ''but i probably wouldnt do anything because of the kids and the ex'' came the reply)
so can some ladies please help to explain my situation, where do you think i stand in this womans life? and why/where is this girl whom i like is coming from? does having kids make getting involved with new people so much more difficult? it doesnt bother me. but i havnt been in this situation before!