Originally Posted by
sting3r
Couple of days ago I thought I'd call her and explain her the situation and apologize. She hung up the phone when she realized it was me. Told me she didn't ever wanted to talk to me again. I emailed her and told her everything. No reply.
She probably deleted the email. Don't you just HATE when people won't allow you to force your apology on them? Sucks, huh?
All of a sudden I feel like shit now. I've lost interest in everything I do. I don't feel like eating... I feel staying in bed the whole day. I pretend everythings fine around friends and family...but it isn't.
I don't even wana get back with her. But I can't seem to completely let go of her either. It was nice just being part of her life and catch up from time to time. I'm sure she felt the same way at the time. Right now I feel the only thing that would make me happy is us talking to each other. Either that or I just wana get her out of my head so I can move on. Clearly she wants me out of her life and I can't force anything upon her now. If thats what she wants, then I have to respect that. But I don't want her to hate me either, esp over something like this. Its been far too long and I didn't expect things to affect me in this manner. We wouldn't talk to each other for months and I'd be fine. Because I knew if either of us made contact, we'd talk for a while and catch up. Thats all I really wanted. I feel its my fault I pushed her away and even lost that connection with her.
Your post is just full of... you, you, YOU! Did you perhaps have this problem in the relationship, I wonder?
Anyway, not sure if you know this, but sincere apologies aren't for the emotional benefit of the person giving the apology, but the recipient. Sometimes, if you've really screwed up you just have to suck up the lesson and any associated guilt and move on with your life. She doesn't owe you a thing, certainly not to listen to you absolve your own guilt. Sounds like she doesn't want a thing from you either. Too bad, learn to deal with it and leave her alone.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh