what to do....i keep checkin up on her!

[wizard of oz]

Right i have a few problems with my g/f hope you can help.

we've been tpogther for nearlly five months now. In the first month i htink she cheated on me . The prblem is that i was never fully aware and being so in love , i decided to let it pass.
The reason why i think she cheated is tht she had text msg's from this bloke sayin hoe he liked her and everythin. She also sent him alot of texts over about two weeks. One night i knwo she saw him out, and the day after i was going around hers. Normally she would tell me to come round when i liked but this time it didnt happen. But this is the past i want to forget. But then recently wesaw this blike out together and he seemed rather shoxked we were together and things.

Anyway, ive got a problem with checking up on her as it were. I try to see what texts she's writn to people and look at the computer screen when shes typin to people.

I know most of things she says to people are ok. But alot of these people are blokes and i kniow they're tryin tu flirt with her.

Last night i sw her tyoing messages kinda flirty ones with this bloke. Lookin back at it now it does seem like a joke.

But is it me being silly thinking that typing flirty msg';s like " we can roll about in ferns" and "doing things for beer" i know they 're jokoung but its hurts me.

The pronlem i seem to have is that if i didnt check up on her, we woulkdnt have these arguments about her saying thise things.

I think in my mind i just need to forget about chackin up on here, and just hope its all ok.

But arer those msgs wrong? what would other people think if they read thos even though it is a joke?

The problem also is that this happens alot. about oje bloke a month atleast. Textin him gettin to know him really well. I know each tie the bloke really likes her each time.

Please help

[Fawn]

Now this is a tough situation.
I'm a flirt as well, but I always make it completely clear that I have a boyfriend and I'm off limits. I find it rather stupid that she would flirt with these guys knowing that your right there and watching what she's doing. I think she's going to far when mentioning anything sexually related. Especially comments such as "doing things for beer" or having sex.

Normally its good to check up on your gf/bf every once in a while. I mean, its expected that your curious or you just want to know how there day was. It looks to me that she's very untrustworthy. One lesson I've always agreed with is that, if you can't trust someone, then maybe its best to spend some time apart. I only see more pain in this situation because she's not going to change her ways.

[wizard of oz]

yeah shes just sent me a msg sayin she doesnt think she is g/f ateiral. i dont really know what she means. She says she love sme though.

[sfalexi]

When she says she isn't "g/f material" it means she's not ready to commit to being faithful.

So if you continue, suggest an open relationship, have fun with her, but don't hold back when you see someone else you like.

Or end it.

Alexi

[Junket]

I say just end it.