is there a way for me to be her friend?

[mrund3rd09]

I met this girl in one of my summer classes. I introduced myself to her, and we became acquaintances. We didn't really get to know each other, primarily because I was the one who had to initiate contact, and I didn't want to be pushy.

I'll be honest. I'm physically attracted to her, and quite frankly, I find her a bit intimidating because she's so attractive. She works at the library, and from what I can see, she's by herself most of the time, working. I spend a lot of time at the library as well, mainly because I still have classes left to finish.

I would like to try to become her friend and then ask her out if all goes well. I don't even know if she's single (I doubt it). What do you recommend me doing? And just for the record, I haven't had my first relationship yet, so I'm pretty nervous and fearful of rejection

[smackie9]

NO! you do not be friends with her.....that is being a wimp. Just grow some balls and ask her out. You get better results being forward and confident. The wimp friend crap is a turn off and will get you rejected, and crushed.

[smackie9]

The reality here is that rejection is just part of life so you better get over it.

[smackie9]

Just ask her out, if she says no, she would have said no down the road anyways because a girl/woman already has it figured out in 7 seconds of meeting you whether you are BF material of not. You cannot expect anything to happen in life if you don't take risks......seriously rejection will not kill you. Tip: stop putting them up on a pedistal, they are people too.....if you keep doing it, it will intiminate you even more.