should i go for it?

[iamminzy]

Guys what do you think this guy's intention are?

I met this guy on a dating site and we been talking for over 1 week now and we just went on our date yesterday

There is this other guy on the dating site who said that he can offer me a job at Toyota but I am told him I am not into sales nor am I fit for the position. He said that you don't have to be fit to be into sales, but it just may not be for me. He asked to hang out and get my number, I just ignored it and said that I might be a little interested in working at Toyota given that I do need a job and I do love cars and would love to learn more about them. This is why I was willing to talk to him otherwise I wouldn't have done so even though I love cars or not. He is old too.... I am 24 and he is like 33. I got a babyface, so people will probably think he's my uncle or something lol i just graduated so I need some sort of short term job

But anyways, the funniest and strangest thing is the other guy I met yesterday, I just found out that he also works at Toyota and I told him someone from Toyota recruited me and it's also in the city. They work under the same building lol.... I actually trust this guy more and I think I will need to ask him more question about that guy who is recruiting me. He told me that they don't really have girls working at that Toyota and I actually rather work with all guys then all girls because less drama and gossip. I'm the type of girl that acts like a tomboy and likes to hang around with guys because I know our interest will be almost the same, but of course there could be perverts and might harass you since you're the only girl.

But other that, I main interest lies within cars because I am so dumb when it comes to cars and I would like to be able to chime in with my guy friends and show them my knowledge about cars.

But should I trust that guy who is recruiting me? I mean I won't feel really comfortable around him if his intentions are something else. The only thing that got me so skeptical is because he didn't tried to strike up a conversation and get to know me more and ask questions. I mean could just say he might be able to get me a job and ask me more questions other than asking for my number and asking me to go out... that's where I more than hesitant to give him my number...

[Incognito]

It sounds like you don't know what you want. If you want the job, go for it. If you want either guy, then go for them. Just make sure that you figure out exactly what you want and that you make that crystal clear from the outset. Even though you met the older guy on a dating site, he still offered you a job. If you take the job and don't want to have anything to do with him, well that is his own stupidity because you didn't put you're resume on the dating site.

[DannyH]

What incognito says. Hell jobs are a pita to find nowadays for most folks so take it. If you go after the guy and its all good bonus. If it doesn't work out well then it's his own damn fault if he sees you at work everyday.

[Xeros]

It might just be my over cautious nature, but any guy who randomly offers a job to girl he met online has ulterior motives. What kind of adult would risk his professional reputation by recommending someone who could be terrible at everything and therefore reflect bad on his decision making skills. He expects something to happen and could be flat out lying about the job to begin with. I'm talking about the 33 year old guy here. Do not trust him. Unless I misread or misunderstood things, it's obvious that he's trying to get some type of favor for getting you the job.

The other guy is harder to tell. I'd still say he has a hidden agenda, but he might be genuine. You're just going to have to get to know him better and try to learn more about him. Just make sure you always think about what he gets or may want from anything he helps you with. Guys can be dicks.

[iamminzy]

Yes I agree with You Xeros, I already made up my mind when he sent me another message and asking to hang out and give him my number... he's freaking 33, not sure if he is even married or not, so I will just ignore him because every message he sent to me was about hanging out and giving him my number... and I think it is ridiculous and inappropriate to do since I been changing the subject and ignoring his request. I just try to engage in the conversation and talk about the position and what i did yesterday which was stay home and watch movies. He tells me aww I can watch movies with you, go anything planned for today. Do you drink or go to bars? text/call me and he gave me his number

That does it for me, how can he be so dense. If a girl changes the subject, it means give them more time, they don't wanna respond, or it means a no... I didn't tell him no immediately cuz I wanted to see how he would answer my last message about me watching movies, but he still doesn't get it... hella dense =.-

There are a few guys I spoke to online who ask to hang out or asked for my number and they said aww it's ok if you're not comfortable. At least some guys get it. I agree some guys can be dicks..

[Incognito]

.... I will just ignore him because every message he sent to me was about hanging out and giving him my number... and I think it is ridiculous and inappropriate to do since I been changing the subject and ignoring his request. I just try to engage in the conversation and talk about the position and what i did yesterday which was stay home and watch movies...

If a girl changes the subject, it means give them more time, they don't wanna respond, or it means a no... I didn't tell him no immediately cuz I wanted to see how he would answer my last message about me watching movies, but he still doesn't get it... hella dense =.-

Why don't you just be an adult and tell him "I'm not interested in starting something with you, but will take the position if its still open"? If there is one thing you need to learn its that if you are trying to get a message across you need to be definitive. Don't get angry at him because you are not communicating how you really feel about him. Remember many women like to play 'hard to get' and he may think that you are trying to make him work for your attention. If you're not interested just flat out tell him instead of giving passive/indirect messages like "changing the subject". Say what you mean instead of getting angry that your signals were misunderstood or missed.