What does this mean??

[doggielover2011]

Last week my boyfriend of a year asked me to marry him and I said yes. Yesterday I overheard him telling his ex-girlfriend (who's still in love with him btw) that he was not getting married. I was so stunned I didn't know what to say. Does it mean he really doesn't want to marry me? Does it mean he's still in love with her? Help!!

[maxmax]

Well, it's difficult to know whithout having any real background on the situation.

As things stand:

1) He's with YOU, not his ex

2) He asked YOU to marry him, not his ex

It's possible he told her that you weren't getting married to avoid any potential problems with her trying to interfere. If she is still in love with him, then she may well cause problems, and he is trying to avoid that from happening.

Frankly, I would have thought you'd know him well enough to trust him and to know whether he genuinely wants to marry you or not. After all, if you still doubt him, why did you accept?


BTW is that doggie as in 'style' or the animal? :-/

[doggielover2011]

That's doggie as in both, MaxMax

Here's the background:

They broke up because of a mutual trust issue, but he wanted to marry her. She lives a few hours away in another state and I don't see her causing any problems. But they talk and/or text almost every day since we have been together. She sends him packages with little gifts and notes in them all the time. When I moved in he told her I was just staying with him for financial reasons...only after she questioned whether or not he was living with someone. When I questioned him about that he said he was trying to be sensitive to her feelings. Shouldn't my feelings come first in his life now? Yes, he is with me but...

[HeartIsAching]

He asked you to marry him, but he's telling his ex that's still in love with him that he isn't getting married?

I'm thinking he's a player, and he's keeping her as an option for on-the-side once you're married.

Do you know WHY they had trust issues?

[doggielover2011]

He has three ex-wives who dumped on him pretty badly and her most recent ex had a fiance and four other girlfriends besides her. They never had any cheating issues but toomuch baggage that collided in their relationship. I can understand remaining friends...but the calls and notes and things he tells her...makes me feel like there's something missing in our relationship.