girl wants to be "sex slave"

[davidjulier]

My new girl likes to be dominated, which is new to me but I have no problem with it. However, she really wants to hear something vocal "what are you gonna do to me?" kinda thing.

Frankly, I'm at a loss because I have no idea what kind of stuff she wants to hear..."whatever I want" is the best lame response I've been able to come up with. Can someone give me an example of what kind of things girls like this want to hear?

[mwahahaha]

These typ of broads can never be satisfied, 6 months and some french sicko will be hanging out the back of this one.
save yourself the aggro....

[surfhb]

No way! Feel lucky you have a chick which can express herself in the bed room. If she turns out to be a head case.... Oh well!
Tell her the freaky stuff she wants to hear. Use your imagination bro!

[IncognitoSir]

go watch some porn and give her what she wants! give it to her!

[davidjulier]

All terrible replies thus far, but thank you anyway. For the record, not only would asking her what she wants me to do to her ruin the whole vibe, but shed also be too timid to tell me. "oo baby I'm gonna stick it in your vagina" is not exactly the kinda thing she's looking for.

[IncognitoSir]

All terrible replies thus far, but thank you anyway.

Actually, they're not, not mines anyways lol. You say "girls like this". Implying she is one of many who are the same, which she is not. PORN would be a great starting point for you to get an idea of how she might like it in the sack. You could, i dunno, talk with her about it, and find out what she likes specifically. On the other hand, sounds like you may be sexually mis matched anyways...

[Wakeup]

Sadly: You need to be a natural at being a take charge kinda guy to a sub. If you aren't, then she will likely get bored with you. You need to show her you dominate her in actions predominately followed with commands.

Things like pulling her hair during kissing and sex, ass slapping, flipping her over and dragging her to you to the side of the bed where you'll take her that way. That kind of thing. It could get more intense or physically demanding depending on what your gf likes and expects. You do need to have a convo with her and ask her how rough she wants you to be and have a safe word to use when she wants you to stop because often she will ask you to stop but not really mean it. The dynamic is based on trust and communication so you need to know just how dominate she wants you to be.

Google "Sub Dom Sex" and you'll get far more answers there then you ever will here.

Edited to add: If she wants you to command her then you need to tell her how she is to do you. Demanding how she takes care of you will be you dominating her.

[davidjulier]

Sadly: You need to be a natural at being a take charge kinda guy to a sub. If you aren't, then she will likely get bored with you. You need to show her you dominate her in actions predominately followed with commands.

Things like pulling her hair during kissing and sex, ass slapping, flipping her over and dragging her to you to the side of the bed where you'll take her that way. That kind of thing. It could get more intense or physically demanding depending on what your gf likes and expects. You do need to have a convo with her and ask her how rough she wants you to be and have a safe word to use when she wants you to stop because often she will ask you to stop but not really mean it. The dynamic is based on trust and communication so you need to know just how dominate she wants you to be.

Google "Sub Dom Sex" and you'll get far more answers there then you ever will here.

Edited to add: If she wants you to command her then you need to tell her how she is to do you. Demanding how she takes care of you will be you dominating her.

this is pretty good, thanks. To be honest with you, I've never been in this position before, but as I realized what she wanted and treated her in that "take charge" sort of way, I realized that it came very easily to me so I"m not concerned about having to fake it; it feels quite natural (although certainly a bit different). As far as having a real conversation with her and a safe word, I think that I feel her vibes well enough to deem that unnecessary. I plow through the (bullshit) "no"s like a knife through butter. (Im not raping her, for clarification).

My main reason for this post wasnt so much about what actions to take, because I feel that quite well as shes pretty vocal. My questiosn are litterally which words to use, "what are you gonna do to me baby?" I found myself at a loss there.

Shes a new girl, I'm sure this is something that I will feel out.

[Jenswaiting]

You do need to have a convo with her and ask her how rough she wants you to be and have a safe word to use when she wants you to stop because often she will ask you to stop but not really mean it. The dynamic is based on trust and communication so you need to know just how dominate she wants you to be.

I think you've jumped too far ahead for DJ here.

DJ, a safe word is used when you are in a BDSM relationship and the dynamic is based on some form of physical pain that the submissive partner gets off on.

I think what DJ is indicating is that his girl likes to be submissive. Play it up and test her out first...a little slap and tickle, see how she reacts. If she doesn't like it she'll tell you. Spank her a little bit, gradually bring up the heat - if she says stop forcefully, stop immediately. I totally agree with the hair pulling (yummy), try it out on her, she'll let you know if she doesn't like it. Physically tossing her around the bed is always a good manoeuver, forcing her into various positions. Try holding down her wrists, arms....and finally not for the faint hearted and only if you've got the green light and a safe signal; hand over the neck.

Have fun and play safe.

[surfhb]

All terrible replies thus far, but thank you anyway. For the record, not only would asking her what she wants me to do to her ruin the whole vibe, but shed also be too timid to tell me. "oo baby I'm gonna stick it in your vagina" is not exactly the kinda thing she's looking for.

Then **** yourself then. Don't come asking for advise and write it off as terrible. Frankly, i really don't know why anyone needs to explain to an adult male what needs to be done here??

NEVER ever.... Turn a girl down in the bedroom! If she wants you to wear a crotchless Fred Flinstone costume.... You best well do it if you like the girl.

[Wakeup]

DJ, a safe word is used when you are in a BDSM relationship and the dynamic is based on some form of physical pain that the submissive partner gets off on.

No its not always about pain. He could get rather into it and be toooooo domineering for her for instance like in the case of a good skull *******.or "hand over the neck"
Or even in over zealous ass slapping.

But yes, it is definately used in the BDSM dynamic.

"what are you gonna do to me baby?" I found myself at a loss there.

How about: " I'm going to skull fk you until your eyes shine like diamonds" with or without "bitch" on the end Surely you can verbalize your visuals nicely enough. Just use your imagination.

Have fun.

[surfhb]

"Till your eyes shine like diamonds"!!!

Awesome!!! Lol!

The more post I read, the more I like you. Haha!

[JammerHammer]

How about saying it like this:

Her: Oh, what are you going to do to me?

You: I'm going to ravish you all night till you're breathless.

or

You: I'm going to fill you up with my manhood and drill you hard

or

You: I'm going to f*ck you till I cum and get you pregnant

or

You: I'm going to ravish your body against your will


Hope this helps.

[davidjulier]

great stuff

[davidjulier]

Then **** yourself then. Don't come asking for advise and write it off as terrible. Frankly, i really don't know why anyone needs to explain to an adult male what needs to be done here??

NEVER ever.... Turn a girl down in the bedroom! If she wants you to wear a crotchless Fred Flinstone costume.... You best well do it if you like the girl.

i'm sorry, you're right. "Use your imagination" truly was superb advice.