Guys I am incredibly confused! I need a man's point of view of why this is happening and what I should do!? My boyfriend and I are in a 6yr very close, loving relationship, we rarely argue. Without all the gory detail let's just say we've been through hell and back, but we've done it together. When I say hell and back I mean just bad circumstances not relationship issues.
Anyway, we have lived together almost 6 yrs, I am 40 and him 39. He is incredibly handsome and believe me many notice. TOO MANY. He is a Chef in a high end restaurant and works with a lot of young good-looking girls. Well, here's the issue, I found some text messages from 3 different girls. All of them begging to be him, he is very flirtatious in the texts, calling one girl "hunny bunny" and "babe" in another a waitress says "I dropped that entree, I'm so sorry what can I do to make it up" and he replies with "hmmmmmm?" BUT in all the messages the girls go on to say "Why won't you be with me, I cant believe you've turned me down", "The offer is still standing if you ever change your mind" and "I been waiting on your friend to come around but if I can mess with you that would be better, but you're breaking my heart".
In a nutshell, he is flirting just to get a response then turns them down. WTF? Hell I am still looking pretty good myself but well.....I'm 40, these girls are in their 20's, that doesn't help my esteem much and although there doesn't seem to be any cheating, I am still incredibly hurt.
Does anyone have any advice on what I should do and any input why he would do this. This is the same man that always comes home early from rare guy's nights out and says I would rather just watch a movie with you, the same man that is ALWAYS there is a flash to make me fell better when I am having a bad day.