love triangle

[julinneray]

In January of this year, I heard rumors from friends that my bf was cheating on with some girl but they were not sure who it was...so when i asked him he completely denied everything and said that he was the only girl he was with and he thot i knew better him than that. So because I had no evidence to back up my accusations, I let it go and we reconciled and talked. So soon after that he didn't text me for a week but i decided to check on him and see how things were going with him, he asked me if I was in our college town, I told him no coz i was away for the weekend..he responded telling me that if I wasn't in the town, I shouldn't text him again. So I thot he was may be irritated and wanted some space, so i didn't text him back and wanted to give space to cool off..this was the last day of Jan. So in Feb I found out he had gone to Arizona and we didn't talk at all for two months..which was occasional especially if we had had a serious argument. so in April he came back to our college town and he ran in to me..he told me that it was good seeing me and he hugged me tightly. I didn't expect anything from coz i had decided to move on. Soon after that he started texting me telling me how much he missed me and how much he longed to see me and to hang out with me. So i asked him that he wasn't interested in talking to me before, why was he trying to talk to me again..he gave this silly excuse that he had lost all his contacts while he was working in Arizona. I never paid him too much attention..he continued to pursue me AGAIN ( coz we had been together be4 for about 1.5 yrs) and texted me everyday even though i never replied sometimes. So this month he calls me coz I had gone back to my home town for the summer and told me he really wanted to see me and he couldn' twait to cuddle with me and how much he thot of me everyday and how much he missed me and all these things guys say when they are courting a woman. Since I knew him already and had been together be 4, I thought may be he had issues before and he had cleared his head and wanted to start over because me and him never fought and we never broke up. so this weekend he texts me and tells me he wanted me to move in with him in boston coz he had gotten in to medical school there and wanted to see me really bad, he told me how much he thinks of me everyday. I told him that for to consider this..i wanted an official relationship ( leading to something serious like marriage) he said we would talk about this when he saw me. He started flirting with me and all and telling me he how much he wanted to do what we used to do when we were together. Soon he stopped texting back so I went to sleep. In the morning he sent me a message telling me to forward him all the messages from the previous night. I told him I couldn't. So the next text I see, he wrote saying sorry I didn't mean to lead u on but I have a gf that I am happy with and me and when u see me it i'd be as friends. So I ask him how long have you heard a gf ..he said 5 months...and I was 5 months.? Is this the girl you were cheating me on with and now you are cheating on her with me? WTF? Which means he started being with her while he me and him were still together. And he was all texting me that he was worried that she was going to break up with him and all..I told him how selfish he was. Me and him had been together for 1and half yrs and the least he could have done was to tell me the truth. He apologized saying how sorry he was and all and i told him I'd never forgive him 4 the way he treated me. But this is the thing I am wondering about such men who go back and forth btn girls..if he had had a gf for 5 months..why was he back to pursue me for almost 2.5 months while he was still with her? Also, is this a case of a serial cheater who can't be satisfied with one girl? Idk if his " new gf " broke up with him but the last time he texted me he was telling me to email him because she was leaving him either way. I didn't care about him or her in any case.

[Wakeup]

It thiink you should choose paragraphs. They are loyal and they will never cheat on you.

[mwahahaha]

It thiink you should choose paragraphs. They are loyal and they will never cheat on you.

it think time you put the bottle down

[VincenzoG91]

But this is the thing I am wondering about such men who go back and forth btn girls..if he had had a gf for 5 months..why was he back to pursue me for almost 2.5 months while he was still with her? Also, is this a case of a serial cheater who can't be satisfied with one girl?

Sometimes he's in the mood for a blonde, and sometimes he's in the mood for a brunette, I guess.

[Wakeup]

it think time you put the bottle down

I think it's time you washed up.

[devonbrown]

Basically, he thought he could get away with something. It didn't work. Don't even waste time thinking about him any more. Lose his number and cut all contact. You will be much happier that way.

[jb1111983]

OP, It was difficult to read your post without paragraphs.
Well, now you know what kind of person this guy is. Don't waste your time with him unless you don't mind sharing him with other women. Kick him out of your life. Plenty of fish out there in the Pacific.

[julinneray]

Thanks guys for the advice. I haven't contacted him since then. But of course I am still sad because I put so much effort in this relationship and it saddens me how badly it ended. May be it wasn't meant to be and I just have to deal with it.

[ctr916]

I think I could get into polygamy and would chicks really complain as long as they get a real relationship out of it?

[ctr916]

Thanks guys for the advice. I haven't contacted him since then. But of course I am still sad because I put so much effort in this relationship and it saddens me how badly it ended. May be it wasn't meant to be and I just have to deal with it.

I am not sure what the problem is if he is willing to move in with you.

[julinneray]

see the problem is that we are from a small town in Wisconsin..its liberal but also very racist at the same time. He is Caucasian and I am African, the other girl is Caucasian too. yesterday me and my friend were talking about this because she knows him as well. Her opinion was that he might have really liked me and wanted to be with me but he might have had internal conflict about race and culture ( which is a big deal to some people and not me). she might have chosen her not because she is "better" but may be because it would be "easier" for him to be with her than me. Which I totally understand...Also the fact that he wanted to start over with me in Boston shows something too..Also my best friend was telling that may be something was missing in their relationship hence him trying to chase after me and telling me how much he missed me and how much he thought of me and what not. But I tell my friend...i would rather be with a man who is willing to fight he loves and not fear to be judged by his family or his friends. Also there is a point of emotional immaturity that may be was just not looking to settle down ...its very confusing

[maxmax]

Triangles have too many sharp corners

[Wakeup]

Triangles have too many sharp corners

haha... good 'point.'

[ctr916]

Any chicks want to triangle with me for fun and practice?