Originally Posted by
jojoloko
hi, Im new her.
I met this girl couple of months ago and I liked her the first moment I met her, there was something special about her and I think am "in love" I know for sure she likes me.. I found out recently, and when I was just about to ask her out that she had a boyfriend. I know that the guy is moving away to another country very soon, I think in september and I know that will probably be the end of their relationship. She was downtown drinking last night and called me and wanted to meet me.
I did, and after that I got home and called her I told her I was going to ask her a question and I wanted to do that in person and she got really excited and we met today and when I met her and I was about to ask her I learned that she has a boyfriend but hes leaving in sept. SO what should I do? Should I tell her what I was going to ask or just leave it and try again later. I really wanna tell her that I wanted to ask her out to dinner.
I think she will probably text me soon and ask what I was going to ask her, should I tell it doesnt matter anymore or what? How should I handle this?
Why don't you just tell her that you were going to ask her out to dinner but then you found out she has a boyfriend and you don't take women out who have a boyfriend already because you want someone who is free to love you and only you and not be confused between you and their boyfriend? At this point you don't know if they will be maintaining their relationship in a long distance dynamic until she can join him or, if she will be breaking up with him.
I'm not sure I agree that if their not married they are free game. In this day and age lots of people don't ever get married and either just live in their separate homes or live together without the license... so that way of thinking will often get you into a situation where you are the secret while she keeps her boyfriend or where you're wondering if someone else is trying to steal her from you should you become bf/gf.. Not a nice postition to be in.
Last edited by Wakeup; 25-07-11 at 04:33 AM.
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