A classic movie story... only it's not-- What should I do!

[utahime]

Hello everyone!

Thank you for taking a look at this post. I really need some advice.

I am suffering from the classic "In love with a friend who is unavailable" proplem!

let me first tell you, I am gay. I hope I don't offend anyone, but I am quite proud of who I am!

It all started 2 years ago. when I fist started studying a my university. There I met "M". A Talented, beautiful woman, whom I befriended instantly. M starting dating another MALE classmate at the time, and they have been insanely happy ever since.
about a year ago, M and I where starring together in a musical, and we grew very close. I started to develop feelings for her during rehearsals, and when we danced together, I couldn't stop smiling. I knew In was in trouble then, and that it would be bad if things continued that way... afterall, even though she is Bisexual and aware that I am gay, she is in a serious heterosexual relationship.

I tried to tell myself that I would only be miserable from it... and that's what happend. Ever since last year, I am crazy about her. The way she smiles, the way she dances, the way she talks...
she's also been an amazing friend to me, and everybody around her. I feel like I can tell her anything-- Except my feelings for her. I tell myself to take a distance, but I am just miserable without her!

I try not to be obvious, because I really couldn't bare to lose her friendship, but I feel horrible.. all the time..

now the problem is, we are both starting our internships soon, and will be living 3 hours apart. She'll live with her boyfriend, so naturally we won't be seeing eachother everyday anymore.
I guess that should make me happy. a chance to create some distance.. BUT I CAN'T!

I miss her when she's not around, and the mere thought of not seeing her for weeks is nearly unbearable...

even though there is no hope for us, and I would never destroy her happyness with one of my male friends/classmate....
I can't stop loving her..

WHAT SHOULD I DO? should I tell her my feelings? keep them hidden? forget- and if so, how?

thank you for reading. Please, if you have ANY advice... no matter how short or anything.. please comment!

[devonbrown]

Unless she is in an open relationship, you should give up on any thought about possibilities with her. She isn't available and you don't want to be the other woman.

Best advice would be to put distance between you, including in your mind. Get busy with other things. Stay insanely busy. Hang out with other people. Lack of activity could allow you to start thinking about her again. So stay crazy busy until you realize one day that you haven't thought about her in a while. Then you will on your way to moving past it.

Good luck.

[utahime]

Thank you so much.. I am just really worried about how this will affect our friendship..
how could I possibly distance myself from her without losing it? or should I give up on the friendship alltogether?

.. and most importantly, should I tell her about my feelings? or not?

thank you so much for your help!

[Mathias]

Of course you shouldn't tell her about your feelings. That serves no purpose other than your own.

[utahime]

you are propably right..
it's just so difficult... and in a way, I fell like I am betraying her somehow.. she hugs me and propably think nothing of it, and I go off onto cloud 7..

*sigh* thank you for your comment!