What do you consider an LDR?

[friendlydays]

Locations: San Diego and LA.

Would you consider it a long distance relationship?

[KaWaiiSkYe]

I'd say:-
Locations: Asia and Europe.
That's definitely LDR, but I'm in a diff situtation which is just as bad. Well, I mean I am sorta like that but nevermind... I don't really wanna get into it.

[sfalexi]

I'd say where you can't see the girl/guy at least once a week or on every weekend.

So I consider a LDR anytime you have to wait to see each other once every two weeks or more.

Alexi

[KaWaiiSkYe]

Mine's once a month or sometimes once every 2 or 3 months...

[Innova]

Mines...never. 0o0oo0 wait, thats cause I'm not in a Realtionship...doh!

rofl...

[Junket]

Anything that's farther than an hour's drive.

[KaWaiiSkYe]

Mine's a thirteen hour plane journey. LOL!

[misombra]

i wouldn't consider san diego and l.a. to be a ldr. they're pretty close.

san diego and san francisco would be a ldr though.

[Illusional]

basically.. a waste of time.

raverboy

[hallanole]

My guy is 8 hour plane trip away.

But I'm loving this LDR. I'm so busy and I don't have to fret over not being able to spend all the time I can with him. So it works.

plus none of the guys around me are worthy of my time.

[Junket]

If I can't walk there in the course of a day, then it's too far.

[tooxshort]

i think it depends on how lazy you are ...

cuz from my house to san jose is only 30-40 minutes, but i don't think i'd have the drive to go down there all the time ...

[KaWaiiSkYe]

Hmmm, lazy people!

[squirrley]

LDR's are difficult as hell. (I think Ive been there personally). When you can't see the person you care about on a regular basis, it becomes extremely difficult to manage. Seeing that person once a month, SUCKS! OF course, it makes things sweet too, you get excited to see them, you get butterflies, you find yourself smiling without realizing it when youre thinking of them, the first moment of interaction when being apart for so long, yea those are some good points. Yet, it takes a major toll and a bigger strain on the relationship. But if you truly care about the person you make it work. You take the extra efforts to show them youre willing to do this, be alone at night, not see anyone else, etc. You have to have committment to that person. A loyalty if you will. And a committment to the relationship, not worrying, not being jealous, and finding other things to do while apart that are constructive for your own life.

LDR's can be rewarding, you find yourself, you grow, you learn about eachother, you face issues together and as individuals. IF youre lucky enough, and BOTH parties want more, you make decisions. And if youre unfortunate and one doesnt want it anymore, well, it was a learning experience, you hurt, you go through the pain of the loss, and move on.

You can make the most out of LDR'S, make it happen, or not. Its up to you, and what that persons worth is to you. Most people tend to stay away from them for the lack of seeing one another. But in my case at one time, I preferred it that way. Im so independant, I didnt want a SO up my ass 24/7, no matter how crazy I was about him. And I didnt want to be up his. I like my own space, me time. I dont know how long I would want a relationship like that though, eventually I want to settle down, and have my best friend beside me when I wake up and when I go to sleep. See his smile in the morning, give him a kiss goodbye and cant wait til I see him at lunch for a little nookie!!! I wouldnt recommend LDR's to everyone, it takes a strong individual, and a stronger one to HOLD back. Which Ive failed to do, and it caused some ripples I think.

Anyway, sorry its like 5:30 am here and Im in a mood to spill my guts, sorry it was ya'lls expense...