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    Boyfriend didn't include me in his future plans

    Ok, I posted another thread about how my boyfriend doesn't love me and it's been a year.
    In a year I have to move to Germany. His family is there also, so even since the beginning we talked about going there together. He always said he wanted to go to Germany, so I saw that as a plus in our relationshi, that we had mutual future plans. He even said we'll move in together.
    Today, out of the blue, he calls me to tell me that some guy friends of his are moving to UK and that he thought about it and he wants to go with them, to share rent with them and find a job there.
    I was shoked to hear that, out of the blue, I didn;t know what to say.
    At first I was angry, saying he didn't give a damn about me and didn't include me in his plans at all, just for a moment to think about our plans and me, then I told him ok, I'll go alone, have a safe trip, bring an umbrella with you cause it's rainy and stuff like that to act like I don't care.
    I said it's the end of us then, but he told me to chill cause he doesn't know if it's for sure and that he has tp talk to his family bla bla, and that if he goes, he'll be leaving in september so it's plenty of time left, and that he may just go there for a few months, etc.
    Should I break up with him even if he's not going afterall? The fact that he didn't think of me at all makes me so mad
    Thanks..

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    Quote Originally Posted by ClaraS View Post
    Should I break up with him even if he's not going afterall?
    Yes.

    He only thinks of himself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ClaraS View Post
    Ok, I posted another thread about how my boyfriend doesn't love me and it's been a year.
    In a year I have to move to Germany. His family is there also, so even since the beginning we talked about going there together. He always said he wanted to go to Germany, so I saw that as a plus in our relationshi, that we had mutual future plans. He even said we'll move in together.
    Today, out of the blue, he calls me to tell me that some guy friends of his are moving to UK and that he thought about it and he wants to go with them, to share rent with them and find a job there.
    I was shoked to hear that, out of the blue, I didn;t know what to say.
    At first I was angry, saying he didn't give a damn about me and didn't include me in his plans at all, just for a moment to think about our plans and me, then I told him ok, I'll go alone, have a safe trip, bring an umbrella with you cause it's rainy and stuff like that to act like I don't care.
    I said it's the end of us then, but he told me to chill cause he doesn't know if it's for sure and that he has tp talk to his family bla bla, and that if he goes, he'll be leaving in september so it's plenty of time left, and that he may just go there for a few months, etc.
    Should I break up with him even if he's not going afterall? The fact that he didn't think of me at all makes me so mad
    Thanks..
    WTF? Lady, this man doesn't give two shits about you and his "words" are just being said so that he can keep you to have sex with when it suits HIM, until he actually leaves you.

    He doesn't even love you why do you keep asking hopeful questions about him? Take back your personal power and tell him to go fk himself and never call you again before we hear you here again crying because he left you to go live with his buddies and how it was such a shock to you. Jeeezzzus. He doesn't love you and he said he may NEVER LOVE YOU. He's certainly showing you in actions that he's not lying about that at least. Pay attention.

    from your other post on this asswipe:
    I'm sad all the time because I know he doesn't feel the same way and I don't know what to do. Should I wait or move on? Thank you!
    Why are you having the need to even ask this question of us when the answer is so blatantly obvious?
    Last edited by Wakeup; 03-08-11 at 11:20 PM.
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    Women are often really quick to throw away their own goals and dreams to follow some dude all around the world. Don't be surprised if he falls head over heels in love with a woman who has her own dreams and ambitions and makes it clear that she's not going to just put her plans on hold to follow him around.

    Make your own plans that don't involve him.

    You were complaining that he didn't even love you! Why were you planning to move to another country for him?

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    He didn't include you in his future plans because he doesn't love you and he has no interest in having a future with you (this is cobbled together from this one and your other post).

    Stop the drama and just end it. Don't even bother with future conversations with him about things like this. Just end it and find someone who respects and cares for you.
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