Is there any way to facebook a woman after getting rejected?

[robertdawson]

I gave her my number and told her to text me and she didn't. I am almost 100% sure that I'm never going to get a date with this woman, but I still want to try and be a friend. I've had plenty of friendly conversations with her and I feel like it would be a shame to have to completely sever contact just because she didn't want to date me. I don't like to burn bridges unnecessarily and who knows, she might even have some friends or friends of friends that might lead to something.

So, is there any way I can facebook a woman (friend request) and not come across as stalkerish? Is there something I can say in a friend request message to assure her I'm not trying to stalk her and that I'm not upset about her rejecting me? I'm not just doing this to try to be her "friend" and weasel into a date later on, I can assure you.

Thanks.

[rafterman]

Well just friend request her.Dont say anthing just put it out there. Depending on her response you'll know where you stand. I mean its not as if you've never spoken to her. The less you say the better. Its like the old saying.........Sometimes a little is alot........ Hope this helps.

[HeartIsAching]

Short answer: No.

[Vanessa]

Sending a message to say you're not stalking would seem stalkerish. I don't particularly get why you want to add her. You wanted to date her, you know she won't and also...

she might even have some friends or friends of friends that might lead to something

... she won't hook you up with her friends.

[robertdawson]

I don't know, I just don't like having to sever contact with people just because I asked them out. It would be different if she had been a bitch to me but we had multiple conversations and would have to be considered at least friends. I sat next to her every day this month in the class I had.

Is a facebook request (no message attached or one that just says "how did you end up in the course? really that bad? It seems harmless. It isn't like I'm going to spam her school email with messages or try to find out her phone number. It isn't like I've really done anything else that would make me feel like a stalker.

[Vanessa]

If you're 'at least friends' how come you haven't added eachother by now?

I just don't like having to sever contact with people just because I asked them out

Yeah, but if you've asked someone out it means you want to be more than friends, if they turn you down it means they don't, which may constitute a reason for them to feel awkward around you. She probably doesn't want to talk to you right now knowing you wanted to date her.

My opinion is that it's pointless and it's gonna make you look bad. Do as you see fit.