A few of weeks ago i went on our computer, something i rarely do but for the last month i had the feeling my Fiance had been doing something we had both agreed we wouldnt do while we were together, Cybersex. I had been asking him throughout the month if we were ok.He always replied we are very ok and it didnt sate the feeling in me. Im ill will a diseased spine and suffer a lot of pain so we are always together.His pc is in our bedroom, our sex life suffered and any suggestion i made for us to do other things was met with a "i dont like seeing you in pain, i dont feel right to have you suffer pain just for sex".Sounds sweet but annoyed the hell out of me because he really made me feel a woman when we did have sex and not a burden to him.
Anyway he was playing a online game,and he and a woman in his guild started to cyber,they took the cyber from ingame to msn.When i read the history of their messages she often referred to other men in their messages,the usual cybersex on the things they want to do to each other even sending pics via email.
in his messages he tells her about the lack of sex between us because it hurts my back even adding a lol to the sentence.She writes back sex talk etc and keeps bringing other men into it in the appearance to make my fiance jealous which he states to her he is and how he wants to wake upto her in his arms.
He claims he doesnt remember writing these things to her, i even read abstracts of it to him and he says it has no feeling from him to her.I find this difficult to believe because they would often chat while i was in the room under the pretence of levelling characters, the thing is when he and i met we did the same thing.I was in a unhappy relationship my ex had discovered cross dressing.Anyway i dont believe my fiance anymore i no longer feel safe in his arms.
Am i over reacting? is cybersex really an affair?,i know i probably deserve it back, karma and all that but my ex and i had pretty much stopped any resemblance to a relationship months previous to my present fiance relationship beginning.
We have been trying to regain a relationship, but i just cant trust him,i can know longer go for long hot baths to ease my pain i dont know what he is doing on the pc.He cant use his pet names for me he called her them too.Both destroyed a relationship that both my fiance and i believe was perfect except for the disease Do i just leave him or try and rebuild without trusting him i opened my heart and soul to this guy and said dont hurt me it will destroy me it has i cry a lot and have lost a stone in weight in just a month.
thanks for your help