Cybering

[Kyrina]

Do guys see cybersex as cheating on their wife/lover/gf etc
if not why not ?
thanks

[NytNrs&Mmartist]

cybering like sex talk/dirty talk on net...

its a bit of a gray area. not just black or white. The person who is cybering consider it not cheating BUT... He is planning to do so.

I would say he has not cheated on you YET, but he might do so if somehow the person meets with the other one who he cybered with.

[oldskool83]

in order to even think or waste the time to do this you gotta be thinking about taking a chance on any opertunities that could happen. It not pyshical cheating, but its a form on strayin. The amount of engery to go thru with this let alone hid things from who ever your dating takes more engery then giving it to whoever your dating.

[Wakeup]

If it's not sanctioned by your partner that you promised to be monogamous with, then YES it is cheating. If he/she say "sure go ahead" then no it is not cheating. There is no "grey area" at all. Ask your partner and depending on her/his answer is the answer to your question.

I myself would NOT sanction it.

[Kyrina]

Wakeup it was already discussed and i made my views clear on cybering.It was how we met and now he says that he doesnt understand why he did it. I stopped playing games 2 years ago so this situation wouldnt hurt us and while we were living apart he didnt cyber and after 2 years together he does it so how can you forget something you know will hurt your partner and go ahead and do it regardless
thanks for your advice guys

[Ric]

I'm quite open-minded. For me it depends. If it's just for some sexual fun, go right ahead. If there is anything emotional behind it, then I'll consider it cheating.

[Wakeup]

I'm quite open-minded. For me it depends. If it's just for some sexual fun, go right ahead. If there is anything emotional behind it, then I'll consider it cheating.

... And what if your partner considered it cheating whether there were emotions involved or not? There are TWO people in a relationship/partnership. It's not all about YOU.

[Wakeup]

Wakeup it was already discussed and i made my views clear on cybering.It was how we met and now he says that he doesnt understand why he did it. I stopped playing games 2 years ago so this situation wouldnt hurt us and while we were living apart he didnt cyber and after 2 years together he does it so how can you forget something you know will hurt your partner and go ahead and do it regardless
thanks for your advice guys

If he doesn't understand why he did it then he's a liar or he's retarded and in either case you should dump his skanky ass if he won't go to counceling to help him to understand why he did it and why he shouldn't have done it on someone who made it clear to him that it would be cheating if he did.

Sorry that happened to you, doll.

[Ric]

... And what if your partner considered it cheating whether there were emotions involved or not? There are TWO people in a relationship/partnership. It's not all about YOU.

I was asked for my opinion, not my potential partner's opinion. So your attack on my opinion was entirely unfounded.
But, there are indeed two people in a relationship. Such matters should be discussed. I really don't care too much what she would think of it as cybering is extremely boring to me. So, I won't do it anyway. From my perspective, she can cyber all she wants as long as it's purely for sexual pleasure.

[Wakeup]

Hardly an attack but whatever.. Peace! As long as the both of you are okay with it then it's not cheating. I think that was the question... Is it cheating?

[kinks]

Yes. I'd be pretty upset if my bf did it, and he'd be if i did it... It's just not nice!