Me and my girlfriend split up :(

[Mike1990]

Well, i'm a bipolar sufferer so i admit when i wasn't properly treated i didnt treat her or anyone like they needed to be treated.

I was bullied in all my schools, i didn't have the confidence to make friends but recently i've started to have the confidence to chat to people.. but the people i talked to was girls on a social networking site because after what happened in school i don't think any lad would be interested in even seeing my name. So i opted to talk to girls instead and just be there mate but these girls misunderstood my friendlyness and thought i was interested. I wasn't and never would be, i told them that.. they told my girlfriend that i cheated on her with them.. i was there for these girls when they needed someone to talk to, but they did repaid me by doing this. Now my girlfriend thought i cheated on her.. i havent cheated on her and never would do. Then she said she don't love me anymore and she's hurt about all messages.

My ex said she don't know if she wants to get back with me or not, but then because i was so heartbroken i did the most stupid thing and kept mithering her to get back with me crying on the phone and such(i know stupid ) and she told me to stop asking her and that and now she says it's over for good but she still has a good time with me and a good laugh.. and still wants to go on a day's holiday with me.

She also keeps saying she loves me but then saying she didnt mean to say it. I written her a love note a bought her 2 roses.. 1 real, 1 fake.. to show her the real 1 was for my real love for her and the fake rose was to say my love for her will never die.

I just want her back what do think i should say to try to change her mind?

[smackie9]

There is no way of telling how this will play out. Trust is a hard thing to get back after something like this.Anyways social networking is like dating sites and that my dear is why these girls are talking to you. If you wanted to make new friends you should find an activity that involves social interaction like joining a club or playing a sport, joining a gym and taking a few classes....find something that interests you. As for your ex GF, was this a LDR? or did you physically see her?

[Mike1990]

There is no way of telling how this will play out. Trust is a hard thing to get back after something like this.Anyways social networking is like dating sites and that my dear is why these girls are talking to you. If you wanted to make new friends you should find an activity that involves social interaction like joining a club or playing a sport, joining a gym and taking a few classes....find something that interests you. As for your ex GF, was this a LDR? or did you physically see her?

I was with her for 3 years, i was living with her for 2 years and 10 month and got a 18 month old daughter with her.. i know i should of made friends that way.. but it takes a really big mistake to learn big lessons.. just need to try and prove to her that it is a lesson learned

[smackie9]

The only thing you can do is to leave her alone and no contact. Let her have sometime to cool off and rethink things over. Let her contact you when she is ready to talk.

[Mike1990]

Okay, good advice thank you

[smackie9]

When there is a child involved its a lot hard to walk away so I doubt shes going to completely call it quits.....but its a tough call when these girls are pegging you as a cheater dude. Who does she really want to believe? Was there truly anything incriminating in those messages? Are you being honest with us on here that you were not in any way talking to these girls in a sexual manner? Did you get all caught up emotionally with them and it turned sexual? I really find it hard to believe myself, that a guy would be chatting with a bunch of girls on line just for friendship when you have this beautiful girl that had your child living with you, that was there for you.

[smackie9]

I guess sometimes we don't know what we have until its gone.....

[Mike1990]

I'm not a cheat, i disagree with it. Thing was, i was kind and pleasant to these girls offering advice and stuff.. that's all it was. Totally platonic, nothing sexual or emotion involved.. just wanted them as mates... plus because of my bipolar i had to leave the house through social services so havn't been living together since feb this year. I'd of told her the truth if i had cheated on her, but she means so much to me i wouldn't even dream of cheating on her

[Mike1990]

I guess sometimes we don't know what we have until its gone.....

That is so true, i even told my ex that and told her that mistakes needs big lessons

[smackie9]

Social services asked you to leave?.....this is just layers of issues that just keeps adding up. What have you done to improve your situation with being pi-polar? Are you going to counseling?

[Mike1990]

Social services asked you to leave?.....this is just layers of issues that just keeps adding up. What have you done to improve your situation with being pi-polar? Are you going to counseling?

yes im going to counselling plus im on meds that really help me, so i'm sorted on the mental health front

[smackie9]

So if everything was going well with that, were you in the process of moving back in with your GF?

[Mike1990]

Yes, that's how the plan was heading