Believe me I know how bad this is, it's cause me a lot of issues in the past. I had not done it in so long since I was 19 but recently I was looking online at me and my wife's shared phone bill and noticed something that got me snooping again. I am deployed right now and message her through a messenger I noticed the number that we text each other on but I noticed a similar number (one digit difference) that she texts a number of times through the day while I'm asleep or if she wakes up in the middle of the night and I'm not around to answer. I thought to myself oh its just her friend that she grew up with who is in the army and she has told me he texts her etc... so I thought no big deal but then I thought he is in the same area of the world as I am so he should likely be sleeping the same time I am which is when the texts happen. Now I am thinking it is a guy she had interests with before she ever met me. One time I had been using her computer and her skype automatically logs in on opening and I saw some past messages to him from her one of them being "Too bad we never got to meet in person" and this was after we gotten engaged. I think because he has a job hopping around the phillipines etc.... Help me keep from snooping and just to forget I don't want to snoop I trust her and I don't want to go through the same things I did when I was a teenager and did this stupid crap.