It’s almost been a year and a half since I’ve been with my boyfriend. I’ve always been the type of person to do anything for the people they care about. So naturally I’ve always wanted to do so much for my boyfriend, and I have done so much for him. I’ve made so many sacrifices when it comes to my time and school just to be with him as well as other things I do. I just feel like sometimes I go way too far out of my way and try so hard and I don’t feel like he does the same for me. At least now I am realizing this.
When my boyfriend and I first met we were in high school. He was a sophomore and I was a junior. A 15 month age difference, it wasn’t so bad. Most cases that wouldn’t be so bad but I seem to be getting older and more mature meanwhile he is very immature. It was nice and so great at first because we were both in high school and had the same schedule. Now I am going to college and this will be his senior year. So things are different but have potential to work out but lately I don’t even feel like his priority, or at least even one of his priorities. For example, I’ve been telling him I just want to see him a little more because I start college really soon and I thought it’d be nice to see him a little more before my schedule totally changes and I won’t be as free. Because he starts school a week after I do. But I told him how I thought it’d be nice if we hung out a little more before I’d leave and nothing has been done about it on his behalf. Like I feel like I’m the one trying to make plans to see him and he doesn’t seem to care too much or take it seriously. Last week I was sick and I didn’t see him for a few days. The first thing I wanted to do was spend time with him and to see him again. When I was finally better, that same day I had asked if he wanted to do something and he made all these excuses that he was busy all day. Then he eventually told me he was afraid of getting sick. Which I explained what I had wasn’t contagious and he said he wasn’t lying to me and that he wouldn’t lie in order to not see me and that he was genuinely just busy. So he was “busy” all day but then meanwhile later that night he went out with one of his guy friends. It was so nice he was too “busy” to see me and knew I wanted to see him but meanwhile he saw his friend that night. So that made me a little angry because he knew I wanted to see him, so everything he said about being busy seemed like some excuse to just not see me. It was weird because before he had never been too “busy” to see me. The other day we discussed college because he is thinking about what he wants to do. The one college or career choice he was thinking about was in a totally different state and the program is 2 years. I told him if he picked that since it’d be long distance that I don’t think our relationship would work out. And to which he said “I’d still have you in my heart” but it’s like he’d have no problem leaving me and going that far away. I picked a school close to home so I could be with him and I decided to commute to school too and not live on campus because I also wanted more time to be able to spend with him. And I understand he just wants a good job, but I feel like he’d even do that at the risk of our relationship. So it makes me think or feel like he’s not really into us being together. Then today, I took a practice run to my school on public transportation. I just wanted someone to go with me to help me out and be there and when I told my boyfriend how my brother suggested I take him (by “him” meaning take my boyfriend) my boyfriend said to me “well both my parents are out and have the cars and I can’t drive alone”. And then when I explained to him I wouldn’t need a car and that he wouldn’t either, we live fairly close all he would have had to do was walk to the trolley station and meet me. When I explained that to him he replied with how his dad just got home and how he could go if I wanted. But I was frustrated and I already had asked another friend which my friend responded first so I went with my friend instead. But I thought it was weird that one minute his dad wasn’t home and then miraculously when I said we wouldn’t have to drive anywhere he said that. I don’t even know if I can believe what he says. Sometimes I feel like he makes up things so he doesn’t have to see me. It seems like bullshit excuses sometimes. He always tells me he wouldn’t lie to me like that though, but sometimes I don’t really believe it.
I just feel like sometimes he can be a complete dick to me. Or I feel taken for granted or not appreciated or like I am way more into making the relationship work than he is. Also, now I often get frustrated now over how he acts or things he says and I know that can’t be normal. But lately I don’t seem to really care what happens. Like I used to be all excited to see him or try to plan when we would or look forward to the next time, But ever since that day when he said he was too “busy” to see me and went out with someone else that night anyway I just sort of don’t care anymore about making plans or if we hang out because I don’t feel appreciated.
I don’t know if these are things I should work out with him or if I should just put up with, or if I should just move on. I know I can’t change him. But I still love him.