Is he interested...please help??

[sjsing]

OK, here's my situation.
I've been in my current job for about 18 months, when I started it I was in a long term relationship with the father of my two children...however this relationship has since ended.
A few months ago, I noticed someone I work with ocassionaly looking at me a lot and paying me quite a lot of attention, without sounding big-headed..I'm quite attractive and do get a fair bit of attention from men, and so didn't think a lot of it at the time. But just over a month ago, a friend of mine told me that she had a conversation with him and he told her he thought I was "amazing" and "way out of his league", which is sweet considering that he is very good looking himself!!
So I decided to ask him out and see how things went. We had a really good date..we sat and talked for what seemed like hours, we had loads in common, and sat laughing about tv shows we watched when we were children. He gave me his coat coz I was cold and put his arm around me as we walked along the road...it seemed pretty perfect.
As we said goodnight he kissed me (a really good kiss).
Everything seemed fine, a couple of days later I invited him to a party, but he couldn't make it as he had a prior family commitment, but said he would like to spend some more time with me, and to let him know when I was free, so we've spent the last couple of weeks sending messages back and forth via mobile phone.
The thing is last week I asked him out and he said he couldn't make it but would see me at work on the Friday night, but when I got there the boss had sent him somewere else for the night...feeling a little rejected that he hadn't contacted me, I sent him breezy a message asking him out one night this week, nearly two days later I got one back saying...

"I'm gonna be busy this week, but I'll see you at work next week and we can catch up then. Hope you're ok, take care x"

Is it just me or does that sound a bit like "i've changed my mind"?? Take care sounds like goodbye to me, if thats the case, then I don't get it...apparently he's liked me for ages, and jumped at the chance the first time I asked him out. I know he's single, and I've not seen him since our date for him to decide he dosen't like me. It's not even like we slept together, then I would be thinking that, that was all he wanted, but in my opinion there is more to come in our relationship. I've not made any demands on him at all, and just wanted a bit of fun and to see where things may go (most guys idea of heaven I would have thought?!)

Am I paranoid, or have I been dumped?
Please someone help, it's driving me crazy....what have I done??

[knightlionheart]

Well firstly, on behalf of guys everywhere, i wanna thank u for this story...u c now u know how it feels for every other normal dude to run after a girl, now the tables have turned!! Well he sure seems to have played his card right!! I sympathize with u, life isn't fair, the same goes for dating.....ok u got 3 possible outcomes here, one he just wanted to try his luck out and well he got u and well ur kiss might have turned him off or something, no. 2 he might b just playing around with u to c how long u would wait for something from his side, and if he thinks ur true enough, he might contact u, or he just plain ain't interested!! so get over it girl, if he wants to call u, he'll call, or he might b genuinely busy? u might never know!! in the mean time, get back into the dating game and try not to date yer coworkers for minimal stress at work incase things go wrong and avoiding company scandal!! so just relax and stop turning paranoid and stop calling up like a stalker or something!! keep yer cool!! peace!!

[sjsing]

I'd just like to say how pleased I am for you that you have found happiness in my apparent shame!!! Just kidding!
Really though, I haven't called him up once. The first time he could'nt come out was because he had a real family commitment that he told me about, and I understood but that was when he suggested we go out again...not me and when I said I might be busy that week HE said he could move his plans around to suit me!
Now I've suggested this week he's being distant, so I don't get it, and I've not contacted him since....I'll wait 'till I see him at work next week.
In a way though he's right and I am "out of his legue", sometimes you can mess people around too much, and I really can't stand the game playing thing anyway...either you're interested or you're not Thats my rant over with....sorry
Also speaking on behalf of myself, my friends and probably a lot of women on this site....I have never given any guy the run around I'm always very straight from the start as to weather I like someone or not...thats why this whole thig annoys me so
Rant over now promise

[Laguna]

one word.... YES

[knightlionheart]

Listen girl, i'm sure it isn't hard for u to get another guy, i'm sure u would b way better off!! its funny, attractive girls who haven't played around with guys get this kinda s@*t!!!! don't worry what goes around, comes around, he'll probably get what he deserves!! & remember ur 'way out of his league'......so keep it that way!!! in the mean time, socialize more, u'll b surprised how many fun guys r out there!! laters!!