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[hks]

alright, I'll try to keep this succinct as possible, but I feel as if I need to provide a little background info for this question:

I met a great girl at a summer college class about a month ago. There seemed to be an immediate attraction, and the class lasted a few weeks, so we started to get to know each other, went on a dinner date-ish (did'nt really call it a 'date'), and had sex a couple times. However, after the class she had to go back home, about a 1000 miles away from where I live.

We exchanged info, but at the time we both seemed to think that we probably wouldn't see each other again. The last night with her, we kind of non-commitally discussed how we would like to see each other again, but nothing more really. But the day she got back, she emailed me saying that she was happy we met, sorry for the bad goodbye(s), and that she'd like to see me again. Since then we've been corresponding via email. She sent me ones saying that she wanted me to come out for her birthday (mostly joking, as she knows I can't right now), that she misses me, that she's planning on coming out next summer, etc, etc.

So, today is her 21st birthday, and I was thinking of sending her an email of some photos (of the local area, since we both like to hike, and of my trip to Rome/Malta, and probably some silly ass shit like my dog with a party hat and a happy birthday sign.), and maybe some other things I was considering : some MP3s of music we talked about (TV on the Radio; Will Do as she has never heard them) or maybe a $10-ish amazon gift card? Or a handmade then scanned and emailed card? Or...? Ideas? (oh and I'm definitely going to actually call her and wish her happy birthday too, not just email)

Now, here's a question: is this a good idea, specifically sending her some music with possibly sappy lyrics? (the photos I'm thinking yes for sure) I mean, we aren't in a relationship, and, I mean,she is only 21 (I'm 27) so I'm thinking she's still kind of in a not-sure-what-she-wants stage, and I don't want to come on too strong...

Then again, I'm teerrrrrible at picking up on signals from girls, but I think there might be a mutual desire for something more than 'just friends' here.

Also, I need to come clean here, and provide some more info that is probably pertinent. When we met, she was just in the breaking-up phase of a relationship to a guy to whom she was engaged, which she did not even tell me about for about a week or so. I was somewhat annoyed with her about that, as you might imagine, but she gave a pretty sincere apology, and explained it by saying that she didn't even think of it as important to tell me right away, because she was already broken up with him in her mind, or something to that effect.

So, despite this somewhat ominous sign, I am very attracted to this girl and would like to pursue a relationship with her.

Wait, didn't I say this was going to be succinct? Shit.

TL,DR version: I need some e-gift ideas for a girl that I am not actually in a relationship with but would like to be and I think she might too and I really don't want to screw this up and she's a vegetarian and likes animals, folk/rock music, French language/culture, and kings of leon

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thanks, if you managed to bear with me through that post, any advice is much appreciated

[Kyrina]

Then follow your instincts with her, send the card music but something that makes you think of her and say so, express your apologises for not being there but tell her you will be thinking of her on her special day.
Look up ecards etc and poems, the song send it with lyrics if you can she can see the lyrics and listen to the song and later the song will remind her of you.
LDR are almost impossible to keep going if your not committed to those daily messages, all sort's of seeds take root in your brain, but yeah send her the song and follow your instincts this is not a type of relationship you can let your instincts take too much of a front seat or even a back seat keep them in perspective.
Instincts are your warning system to goo and bad situations, but a song that makes you think of her etc is very good idea and not to forward, we all like to believe the guy welike is thinking of us as much as we think of them .

[hks]

thanks for confirming that I was indeed just second guessing myself. I'll send her the photos and music.

I should clarify that I'm not really trying to have a long distance thing with her, as I just don't think it would be a good idea right now. I was thinking more along the lines of waiting until when/if she comes out next summer.

I guess what I want right now is just to let her know, directly or indirectly (e.g. sending her this stuff today), that I am interested in being in a relationship with her in the future, and hope that she feels the same.

[Kyrina]

Well if thats all you need at the moment good because LDR are hard so yea treat her like a penpal and talk to her about her feelings over matters not just about relationship with you keep in contact, most girls like a guy they have something in common with and have a friend foundation with them (not too much of one tho ), avoid that friend vs lover bit you wont get to far with her then as no girl likes to lose a friend.I have a few penpal friends on the pc but wouldnt date any because they are friends and plus new friends after my recent break up. So take it easy keep in contact with her but watch for that friend vs bf killer enjoy hun