Healing and getting strange feelings.

[JadenMia]

Hi all

I am doing well, slowly healing after my breakup a few months back. Not feeling so low about everything and gradually my life is getting back to normal. My daughter is getting more and more well behaved everyday.. I feel like she is growing up! I have had more time and energy lately than i ever have, and feeling a lot more confident in myself.

One thing that sticks on my mind, is i have been getting these little highschool crushes on random people lately. Obviously i am in no rush to find someone and have no real interest in anybody. But, i am curious to why my thoughts and feelings are like this lately.
I try get out with friends once a week since my breakup, mainly just to branch out and meet new people and stay happy. Well in the past 3 weeks i have been out twice, and really enjoyed myself. Didnt see my ex either times which was a bonus! But the first night, i hung out with my girlfriend and one of her male friends. I know him faintly, we have spoken in the past.
He is a really shy quiet guy and we talked up a storm all night and had a laugh, said goodbye and that was that. Didnt exchange numbers or anything..

The next morning i found myself thinking about him, more than i should. I felt a huge attraction to him, when really there was nothing to indicate anything more than talking as friends. This lasted for a few days then the feelings just faded away.

Last night i went out for my birthday, another fun night had a few drinks. Ended up talking to an old friend who is a year younger than me, and we flirted.. He already had my number so today has been texting me off the hook asking to hang out and such.. I feel the same crush feeling i had before 2 weeks ago. I am not actually interested in him as such, just feel somewhat... excited about him. I have no idea why i am feeling like this!

Why am i crushing on men so easily like this? Its not even that i LIKE them, i dont even know what it is. lol
I am calling after the long weekend about counselling to start asap, i found out its completely free!
But i am just annoyed at how i am feeling these days.. Can anyone pinpoint what is going on with me? I just thought i would come here for some suggestions or experiences like this after a bad relationship breakup.

Thanks all

[moosegal]

Sounds like the same thing I went through ... and sometimes still go through. It's feminine sexuality. During your marriage you didn't have it because your mind was content with being a wife. You're only sexuality was for your husband. Now that you are single, it's coming alive again ... just like when you were younger and single. It's a good thing .. embrace it ... it means you are healing and becoming confident in your sexuality.

[Tetida]

Enjoy the attention you're getting. Men obviously find you attractive. You've probably been feeling down since your brake up, so this attention from other men feels like a refreshment. It doesn't mean that you have to start a relationship with either of them right away. Just relax, enjoy the attention and flirt away ))