Is old wisdom redundant in this modern age? Can I help you?

[Gypsybell]

Strewth! Can somebody help me! It has taken me almost a week to figger out how to 'log on' to this infernal machine! But by hook or by crook, I will do it! My appologies to admin, I didn't plan to get infamous before the fact!

So, hello, folks, They call me The Gypsy. I am a 64 year old independant individualist with 40 years experience in the health and wellbeing industry and descendant of an Irish traditional clan matchmaker/wisewoman. I have spanned two centuries and wish I could be here for a third. I cannot say I have 'seen it all', for I am still looking, but I have made some monumental bloopers in my life and collected well earned wisdom because of it. Is it all to go to waste? Am I out of fashion because I believe that love not only exists, but is screaming out to be found! Will you judge me inept because I was too busy holding hearts in my hands in the operating theatre to take a computer course ?

Hopefully you will be tolerent and forgive me if I push the wrong buttons til I get the hang of it. Hopefully I will be usefull, I know 'stuff'. I am known in Mystic circles as a 'shepperd of the gate', in the health service I am, among other things, a cancer/palliative specialist RN. Was it just chance that my physical path led me to align with my mystical calling? Am I really quallifed to counsel beyond book learned platitudes? My 44 year old son died in my arms of that dreadful disease despite all my abilities and efforts. I do not deal in false wisdom or useless platitudes. And Yes, I still potter in the health field, presently working with teenagers. I work, because I love my work. I also moonlight as a palmreader and travel with the psychic expo just to honor my heritage. I believe in magic and I am a realist.

I expressly joined the health service at a young age to disprove my Grannies 'hocus pocus'. She won, of course, Magic wins when science gives up every time! So it can't be proven, so what? You can FEEL it! and when you can't, that is when life ceases to be worth the trouble of living it. Love, itself, is 'just a feeling', and that is everything. Do you agree?

I like people. I ride a motorbike on long range trips and I write bush verse and collect strays. Have had two failed marriages and 11 greatgrand kids. I just got a computer and have never used one outside of work applications, which I resented as a dreadful innovation to the detriment of patient care! I am revising my opinion provisionally, but it depends on whether I can put it to some good use. Can it help me to help others, which has been my life's work. I do not wish to retire from the human race, only slog. So do you have a question for me? Is this my forum? I wish you well, The Gypsy.

[Kyrina]

Blessed Be Gypsy
Sounds like your life is grand and fulfilling to the majority of your life, it will be interesting and i hope informative to read your wisdom

[Joey10]

Hey Gypsy May be you could help me out... it has been 3 months that i have been seeing this angelic guy who i'm totally in love with and want to spend the rest of my life with but there is just one thing he is not in love with me rather he has never said that he loves me despite me saying it a few times. the first time i said it he just told me to give him some time...and yesterday when i said that i loved him he just kissed me... see his actions make me feel that he loves me but him not telling it is a big issue cuz im just sared that i'll be totally in love with him and that he wont. i just dont want to get hurt if you know what i mean... for me he's like a totally mestrious charchter...he seems totally commited but im scared that im not seeing the reality cuz im in love. Is this normal?? or am i going to be heartbroken yet again??? what do you think i should do???

[IndiReloaded]

Welcome to the forum Gypsy. Wisdom is always appreciated, regardless of age. There are a few 'mature' posters on this site so you will have company. There are many who would benefit from your experience.

[bulrush]

Gypsy,
Welcome. Your typing, spelling and grammar is much better than the majority of high schoolers. So, you are on the right track.

A computer is only a tool, like a hammer, or a boat anchor. And sometimes a computer is nothing better than a boat anchor.
Bulrush

[IndiReloaded]

Gypsy,
Welcome. Your typing, spelling and grammar is much better than the majority of high schoolers.

Is this supposed to be a compliment? LOL!

[Gypsybell]

Hi, Joey10, Sorry to take so long to reply, have been on a motorbike rally to the outback and offline. Plus I have trouble trying to navigate the site and no real idea what I'm doing keyboard wise. Not so on the love front, however, and your dilemma is as old as time. Everybody has different levels of commitment resistence depending on their basic personality and the experiences they've had. Nobody wants to be hurt, but the ones who don't want to do the hurting are the treasures to seek. Whether this man will commit to a serious relationship I can't say, but I believe that if he does, then he will be yours all the way. Many lovers play lip service to 'I love you', when really what they should be saying is, 'You attract and excite me and I want to know all about you, because I'm really hoping this will get even better and last.' In other words what I'm saying is that love is often promised too freely and lightly and of the temporary variety. So if you have a man taking his time about saying these words then he is either just playing the field and trying to be honourable about it, or he is seriously taking his time to test his feelings before committing to a lifelong relationship. Either way, he's an honourable man. So I sympathize with you, It is just so intense when we find that person whom we really, really want to hear the magic words from.

Some tips: Try to resist being too needy for verbal confirmation and go with how it feels between you. You said you 'feel' that he loves you, so he is acting as if he does. Let me just say that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS and some men just don't say it, they DO it! Three months is a reasonable time for him to be with you if he does NOT feel love for you, so don't blow it by making him feel he is not up to scratch on a verbally emotional level. Take a real look at him and where he comes from. Is he free with his emotions on other levels, as in, sharing hopes and fears, easy hugger, hugs mates, other females casually if he knows them as friends, touchy feely? or is he the opposite? It pays to take note of such things no matter how besotted by innitial attraction, communication is a big part of success or otherwise in a relationship and if you have got yourself a 'man of few words', then best you start to understand his otherways of communicating or you could walk past a gold nugget because you are too busy looking for pie in the sky. Hope that helps. Regards, Gypsy.

[Gypsybell]

Thanks for the welcoming word, IndiReloaded. I think what is missing in this whizz age is possibly the balance of the kitchen table confab when Mums lectured, siblings scathed or reinforced and Granny grunted the odd tie breaker. I adore teenagers, It is their job to challenge the status quo and when they run out of ways to outsmart the olde guard, then the world will cease to turn! I just like to make them work for it. Cheers! gypsy.

[Gypsybell]

Blessed Be Gypsy
Sounds like your life is grand and fulfilling to the majority of your life, it will be interesting and i hope informative to read your wisdom

Merry Meet, Kyrina....

A good teacher teaches 'all there is to know'. - A GREAT teacher teaches 'All that is known'........Gypsybell

PS. Seek always, for there is always MORE!

[Gypsybell]

Hi, bulrush,
Your welcome and compliment are truly appreciated. Paleeze don't anyone think me ignorant if you never see me agin' - It'll be becoz I've LOST you! Have no Idea where to find the other categories I posted in and its all just too interesting this cyberspacing thingy. Luv it!

May an Emu kick your dunny down and release the phew!

[HeartIsAching]

sometimes a computer is nothing better than a boat anchor.
Bulrush

They call those "Macs".

[Gypsybell]

Gypsy,
Welcome. Your typing, spelling and grammar is much better than the majority of high schoolers. So, you are on the right track.

A computer is only a tool, like a hammer, or a boat anchor. And sometimes a computer is nothing better than a boat anchor.
Bulrush

So how do I find myself???? Am feeling decidely anchorless drifting around in cyberspace trying to find things I wrote to see if anyone noticed etc, but only seem able to get back to you guys, ???Don't know if you get/got what I answered, but do thank you for the aknowledgement of my intro. I am getting the ghist that I am long winded and torturous compared to others. Erk, and dare I say 'preachy'! Plus I seem to have butted in to ongoing situations and given opinions out of context. I percieve this is not good! But will stick with it. Critical suggestions are oft the vehicle of progress! Fire away! cheers, Gypsy.

[Mathias]

So how do I find myself???? Am feeling decidely anchorless drifting around in cyberspace trying to find things I wrote to see if anyone noticed etc, but only seem able to get back to you guys, ???Don't know if you get/got what I answered, but do thank you for the aknowledgement of my intro. I am getting the ghist that I am long winded and torturous compared to others. Erk, and dare I say 'preachy'! Plus I seem to have butted in to ongoing situations and given opinions out of context. I percieve this is not good! But will stick with it. Critical suggestions are oft the vehicle of progress! Fire away! cheers, Gypsy.

You should probably stop speaking in modified Middle English, for starters.