Me 47, 2 grown up kids not at home, my own home, my job is 15 minutes away
She, 40, 2 young kids at home (aged 8 and 4), her own home, her job is 5 minutes away, school next door, the grandparents 2 and 20 minutes away.
Been together 1 year. We live 90 minutes apart so we can only get together at the weekend and because it's easier for me to travel I spend more time at her place than she does at mine.
Yesterday she asked 'where is this relationship going?" She knows I can't move house. I know she can't move house either and quite frankly weekends together and doing our own thing during the week works fine for me. Where she lives she has two close female friends. One is married and the other has just got engaged to her live in partner. Has this brought on this 'where are we going" frame of mind?
Any insights would be much appreciated.
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11-09-11, 07:31 PM #1
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12-09-11, 02:40 AM #2
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Possible but she might just be asking an honest question. Just give her an honest answer.
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If you carry old bricks from your past relationship to your new one,
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12-09-11, 02:45 AM #3
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Eventually, any woman would ask the same question...
"It's all George's fault. All that talk about impotence. He got to me. And that orgasm stuff: orgasm this and orgasm that. It's a lot of pressure!" Jerry Seinfeld
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12-09-11, 02:49 AM #4
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She's 40. She isn't looking forward to spending the rest of her life alone, I'm sure.
Is that what you want? To be alone till you die?Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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12-09-11, 03:11 AM #5
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Perhaps she's just wanting an answer so she can make a decision if she can decide if she can be content with someone who never wants to live in the same house with her. Did you tell her that you love her but you're perfectly happy to live in separate homes and only see her on weekends? Did you give her a chance to reflect on that? If you didn't can I ask why not?
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12-09-11, 03:15 AM #6
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Sure, she wants to know if you intend to marry her. Do you? Weekend visits isn't a life together.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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