Still together but my relationship is rotting from the inside out

[JamesMorrison10]

Hi Guys and Girls,

I've been in a long term committed relationship for two years now, i love my girlfriend very much but the entire relationship seems to be rotting slowly from the inside out. I feel completely lost and don't know what to do. I'm a student at University and live about 20 minutes drive from my home town, over the summer i have been living with my girlfriend because my folks have moved to another country.

After living here over the summer i was just preparing to return to University when one night i got into bed with my girlfriend and she began crying. I ask her what was wrong and she told me that she doesn't love me anymore or find me attractive at all. We've had a lot of problems during the relationship but this really cut me deep and since i have felt lost and completely alone.

We've spoke a lot over the past few weeks and I've come to realize the only thing that shes done wrong to me at all is being moody and argumentative but she has a right to be because i have a list as long as my arm of all the things I've done to cause her pain.

We've been taking some space and yesterday she asked if we could spend sometime together, needless to say i was thrilled because it made me feel like we were actually moving somewhere instead of being stuck in the mud and getting more stagnant. The problem is it became very clear to me today that we don't know how to communicate with each other, she seems disengaged and distant and doesn't seem to want to talk to me. She said she wants to give the relationship a few weeks/months to see if it improves but i just feel like she doesn't want to make this work.

I'm so confused and feel like i'm suffocating her, i have suggested smashing down everything and trying to rebuild and she seems to agree, but how can i do this if we're so distant and can't communicate properly.

Kind Regards

James Morrison

[JamesMorrison10]

Oh btw Admin sorry if i put this in the wrong section