Confused as ever.

[Fleetcom]

Hey people, I'm a long time lurker here and I've got a serious problem.

Recently I've gotten to know this girl real well and we talk all the time. She calls me a lot and we talk about almost everything. I let it slip that I kind of liked her and she said she just wanted to remain friends for the time being. I get over it and we pretend like it never happened, and we continue being friends. A few weeks go by and she lets it slip that she likes me but she doesn't want a boyfriend because she is just too confused in that department. I went over to her house over the weekend and we're watching movies on her couch and we're literally ontop of each other that we're sitting that close. I didn't kiss her because I was just nervous as hell and when she called me when I got home she said she did want to kiss. We joke around saying that I'm all talk because I was saying all this stuff I've done and she was teasing me. Just recently she told me that she just wants to be friends again and she just likes me as a friend.

I don't understand it. First she wants to be friends, then she wants to kiss me, then she just wants to be friends again. Why do women play with your heart? This is the first girl I've liked in a long time. She says she confused and she doesn't really like anyone, but we flirt almost all the time and she loves to "beat me up" and she just pushes me. Is it because I didn't kiss her? I told her I'm not all talk, just wait. Was that being stupid? She told me it's nothing I did because I know she'd tell me. She says she doesn't like me anymore, but even though literally last night we agreed on being "valentines" haha. What can change a woman's mind so fast? I'd do absolutely everything for this girl..

I just can't get over the fact that one minute she wants to be friends, another she wants to be making out, then finally she wants to be friends?

Can anyone enlighten me on this issue or anything? Any help is appreciated.

[squirrley]

No~cause girl are freaks. Just kidding man. Seriously, she may like you but may not want to invest in anything knowing full well she's not in a mental state to do so. If you like her, let her be the one to initiate the physcial aspect of things. We're good at letting you know if we want to be touched or not, or kissed or whatever.

Goodluck

[Fleetcom]

No~cause girl are freaks. Just kidding man. Seriously, she may like you but may not want to invest in anything knowing full well she's not in a mental state to do so. If you like her, let her be the one to initiate the physcial aspect of things. We're good at letting you know if we want to be touched or not, or kissed or whatever.

Goodluck

Thanks for the reply, I'm just confused.. your reply just calmed me down..

I had a feeling it was because I was nervous about kissing her, but she told me she's in the state of not liking anyone. She has told me her history of boys when we were getting to know each other. She's been hurt a lot and been cheated on, and I feel kind of bad. I don't understand how anyone could hurt a girl like her.. she's funny, smart and beautiful. She told me she's in the stage of "not liking anyone". I feel bad, because I've been nearly hurt as much as her. I guess if you love someone, you just have to let them free.

EDIT:
I also have a feeling that she is lying about not liking me.. she said before that she didn't like anyone and I was talking to her about the first time I said I liked her. She said "I never said I didn't like you, I said I just wanted to be friends." But I clearly remember her talking about "it's a weird feeling liking no-one." and she says shes in that stage again. I have a feeling that she still likes me but she has a fear of commitment.

[squirrley]

wait let me ask you this...how old is she or you? I think everyone has been hurt by someone, and it sucks crap. I know Ive been burned too many times. But you just move on. Like I said, listen to what she is telling you, and take that and be ok with it. If she's not ready but youre willing to maintain a friendship thats great. Give her some time. Everything has a way of working itself out.

[Fleetcom]

wait let me ask you this...how old is she or you? I think everyone has been hurt by someone, and it sucks crap. I know Ive been burned too many times. But you just move on. Like I said, listen to what she is telling you, and take that and be ok with it. If she's not ready but youre willing to maintain a friendship thats great. Give her some time. Everything has a way of working itself out.

I'm 16 years old and she's about a year younger than me. Her past 3 relationships she's been cheated on and hurt real bad. I'm actually supposed to be a sophmore but I was kept back. I'm okay with it, and I said that both times. I'm just disappointed because I like her, but I want the best for her. I'd stay friends forever, even if she never liked me again.

[squirrley]

Sounds like you've already made up your mind then. Sorry I couldnt help you though. But being 15, trust me, she's at a age where she doesnt know what she wants and given that she's been burned so many times, it's better she's by herself for now.

[Fleetcom]

I always used to call her baby, and now she says that's why she fell for me in the first place? It's always been our joke thing... but she always told me it didn't bother her. I don't want to exploit that weakness, but I mean, is it going to happen again? We call each other playful names but I thought she'd fall for my personality not something like calling her baby.

[Laguna]

Ok, since i'm 16 and i've had experience with crazy girls....you have to go for it dude. If you want to kiss her, then kiss her. And if she pushes you away just say something like: "sorry, I couldn't control myself." or something like that. You can't just sit there and do nothing or else nothing is going to happen.

[Fleetcom]

Another update. I'm not going to elaborate for her privacy, but she's been having trouble at home and she says I'm the only one who calls to cheer her up and other stuff. She also wants me to go to the New England Patriots parade tomorrow with her, because they won the superbowl. I'm just confused here.

Oh well.. thanks for the replies guys. I'm sure this will sort itself out, or something.

EDIT:

She also mentioned "You're lucky we didn't go out, you wouldn't have to deal with me and all of this."

I replied and said, "Lucky? I don't mind dealing with this, I feel horrible when you're in this state. I'd be lucky to be able to help you."