My name is Carmen,and I am 22 years old.I was involved with my Ex for a year,and as relationships went,it was close to perfection.
However,he is 29,and wanted more from me than what I could have given him, i.e marriage and children.I am not ready for such a commitment,but he is more than ready,he wants it SOON,and has made it pretty clear as time went by.
Knowing that neither will be happy stuck in a relationship that wasn't giving us both what we wanted,we decided to end it,and stay friends.
So farr so good,right?It's what 2 adult persons would do in this situation.I thought so too.
As it turns out,3 days after we broke up,he hooked up with another chick.She was an old friend from his old town,and I knew they kept in touch.It seemed pretty odd that it happened after 3 days,but he reassured me he didn't cheat,and didn't break up with me because she came in the picture.I REALLY want to believe this.
She already has a daughter,so,yay kids for him.
At first,I was happy for him.But then, after their alleged first weekend together,I went by his place to pickup some things that belonged to me.And he had already replaced my toothbrush,and shower gell.
Which made me realise,he moved on TOO fast.
I dont know if I`m explaining it well,or if someone will even have the patience to read.
I fear that he never cared for me like I have for him, seeing as I am unable to get over it.And the strange part is,that as time goes by,and they seem to get more involved,it hurts more.I fear that the whole fantastic year,was just in my head.
Now to get to the point,it hurts.It hurts knowing they are together every weekend.It hurts knowing she can give him what he wants.Because to be honest,some part of me always hoped he would fall for me hard enough to wait till I was ready for all of that.Ofc I know it would have been unfair,but I couldnt help it.And it hurts most of all,because he calls me every day to see what i`m doing.We also see eachother about 3 times a week,Part of that whole still being friends thing.
My question is,should I stop all contact with him untill I stop hurting?Will it make it harder,or easier?Will I move on faster by pretending i'm his friend,or by ceasing all contact for at least a while.
I know that feeling all this is normal,and that it will pass.I am in no way stuck in this place and mindset.I just want it to happen sooner rather than later,because being depressed sucks to be honest.
Thank you in advance!