Just a bit jealous of his ex...

[cupnoodle11]

I've only just started my relationship with my boyfriend and I adore him to bits, but one thing that occasionally makes me feel uncomfortable is that he is still super good friends with his ex.

They were together for several years and he admitted that it became more of a friendship than love interest as well as other problems. But she still occasionally calls him and asks to talk because of some problem she may have and that he has always made her feel better.

He knows and senses that it bothers me, but I also said that I understand that it's nice they are still friends and that I understand he doesn't want to hurt/ignore her. He just has a very big heart and doesn't want to upset anyone. He's promised me that I am the only one he wants to focus on and that I really have nothing to worry about.

I'm just worried that as time progresses (moment by moment), I may get a bit more and more jealous...

I'll try to keep a level head through all this, but I'd love to hear some other thoughts...

Thanks!

[mwahahaha]

Yeah, been there with this shite. Put your foot down, cause it will only get worse. Any man that still contacts his ex(unless children ar involved) is a twat.
Sounds harsh, but its true. If he respected you he would realise this and cast this whiny bitch aside. Ultimatum time im afraid. me or the dog...|

[Saya]

I agree with the above.
I used to be very good friend with one of my ex and as I go into a serious relationship, I stopped talking to my ex and we stopped seeing each other as well. I even delete him off facebook.
I find that my bf is more important than my ex and that we were having a good friendship after we broke up, but I don't want any complications between me and my current bf so I stopped talking to my ex.
I mean, if he did the same thing then I would feel jealous and uncomfortable all the time.

[Highline]

I've experienced this feeling myself more then I'd like to admit and with different relationships as well. That jealousy feeling/emotion is brutal. I think what you might want to think about is aside from this issue... how does this relationship make you feel? Is he a good boyfriend? If this is the only issue your having and he IS a good guy... he will need to sever ties with his ex. As painful as it is for them... we can't have our cake and eat it too. They broke up for a reason. She can't expect him to swoop in emotionally and take care of her. He is not her boyfriend anymore. That he feels obligated to do this may just be out of habit and obligation. If this girl really cares about him as a friend and isn't just using him for her emotional problems she will let him go. If she doesn't he needs to let her go because it is causing his current love harm. If they were together for a long time and it turned into more of a friendship I'd go with that for now... and be patient... if he is worth it. He may be.. But first things first... YOU and your state of mind need to be #1 if he can't see that move on. Jealousy is so tricky. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

[Simple Love]

I have been in a similar situation and it is not easy...My girlfriend would get texts from her ex all of the time and it would kill me...I finally told her I couldn't take them communicating anymore and she understood and told him to stop..

[thatgirlnicki]

arhhh the old cake and eat it syndrome, yep been there myself, "im just a nice guy, and decided to stay friends with her because i don't like bad feelings" ( despite the fact that she apparently cheated on him twice and one of them times was with his best mate)
four months down the line i discover hundreds of filthy porn photo's of her on his mobile!

I believe if your serious about someone you don't need ex's hanging around, its just wrong, and besides imagine if you have a row, who do you think he will go crying to? I would never tolerate that again and nor should you IMO

[James Banes]

He shouldn't be talking to his ex if it bothers you. Your jealousy isn't misplaced at all. The ex is probably jealous he moved on and wants to mess things up because she wants to be competitive with you. Definitely tell him to cut off the ex. Don't be a nag or shrew about it. Be gentle but firm about it.